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Arguments with companions on holiday.

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MissAdventure Sun 12-May-24 15:33:42

No rows, but I have felt like strangling a few people.

fancythat Sun 12-May-24 15:30:59

No rows.
And havent been on holiday with them recently.

But a group of us know each other well enough, that we know each others' foibles. And know what to expect.

Having said that, I dont like holidays that are any more than 7 days. With anyone really.

biglouis Sun 12-May-24 15:30:38

My first ever visit to Paris with a friend was ruined by the fact that she searched every shop for a particular pair of red stiletto heeled shoes

My first visit to Paris was with another friend who was searching every shop for a certain coat by Ted Lapidus. She had seen it in London but they didnt have the colour she wanted. However this friend was pretty independent, spoke French, and was happy for us to split up some of the time to do our own thing. She was into clothes shopping and I was into antiques so we tended to just meet up in the evening. But we did do some of the tourist places together. No-one has ever suceeded in getting me up the tower.

TwiceAsNice Sun 12-May-24 15:22:04

Have holidayed often with best friend of 62 years never a problem we have never had a row over anything .

Been on holiday with family and mutual friends all together, this needed more compromise, some things together some things separate or on smaller groups but mostly still ok.

I think the grown ups in the posters group weren’t really adults were they more like tedious small children !

Jaxjacky Sun 12-May-24 14:45:33

We’ve holidayed with various friends four or five times with no problems.

Kim19 Sun 12-May-24 13:59:54

Oh I much prefer to travel with a friend. Now, I mean friend and not acquaintance. Quite happy on my own but a special someone to share with ices my cake.

Gymstagran Sun 12-May-24 13:48:35

I too prefer to travel alone, especially on.long haul trips. I've seen may friends fall out on holiday and I feel restricted in what I want to do if I have to accommodate others. The exception is when I travel abroad with my son for him to run marathons. We each decide what we want to do and see on the days he isn't running. So far has worked out well.

JaneJudge Sun 12-May-24 13:47:07

I would never holiday with friends, if that helps. I am quite anti social and don;t like organised holidays, prefer to just relax and take it as it comes. I guess it isn;t everyone's cup of tea so I may as well just be alone or with my family.

henetha Sun 12-May-24 13:32:52

My first ever visit to Paris with a friend was ruined by the fact that she searched every shop for a particular pair of red stiletto heeled shoes .
Tedious in the extreme!
Another holiday years later with an emotional friend who even cried because I ate curry one day and she apparently hated the smell. Etc.
Tears almost every day over trivialities.
Never again. Unless I can go with close family I'd rather go alone.

biglouis Sun 12-May-24 13:24:24

Ever had a holiday with friend/s which ended in a row?

A work friend and I decided to go to Paris. When I warned her I would be going off on my own some (her first trip to Paris) Workfriend proposed bringing another friend, who also wanted to bring a friend. All good, two couples and two rooms booked. Well as the only one who spoke French and having visited the city multiple times I found myself doing all the translating, organizing and so on. The three of them followed me around like little pet lambs. I was beginning to feel like an unpaid tour guide. And they couldn’t even agree on which restaurant to eat in. One was a veggie and wanted every menu translating. Eventually I went into a restaurant alone and told them to make their own arrangements. On day 3 I announced I was going off on my own into the flea market and they could make their own way to Notre Dame and all the other tourist attractions they wanted to see. Surely 3 adults can manage in Paris. Its not Outer Mongolia.

Unfortunately friend of friend left a bag with her passport, cash and travel cheques (1970s) on the floor under the table and it was gone when they returned. Long frustrating trip to local police for report (We could have done with your help we don’t speak French) and by the time the translator arrived it was too late to go to the British Embassy for a replacement passport. When I got back to the hotel late evening I was confronted by three hostile companions who made out how it was my fault for “abandoning” them. Next morning there was more bickering because I would not accompany them to the British Embassy to apply for the replacement passport. “We don’t speak French” “Well be prepared for lots of waiting around, form filling and queuing. But Ive got some good news for you. They speak English in the British Embassy so you don’t need me to babysit you”

We sat on separate seats on the train back to Calais.

That was when I decided to begin travelling alone.