It's true, of course, that pregnancy and giving birth, are huge things in a woman's life (although surprisingly quickly forgotten where things have been straightforward).
I did say that I am sure parents of adopted children love their babies, but I stand by my belief in the genes thing. We are animals and still have the inborn insticts of the animal world. Nature's way of making sure the young are protected.
I appreciate it doesn't work out like that in cases.
Nice to have drawn you out of lurker mode em.