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TRULY MADDLY DEEPLY

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Anniebach Sat 03-Nov-18 17:09:39

On BBC2 this evening. I haven’t seen it since 1990, will I cry as I did then? Gulp. Yes. Alan Rickman , the other man I loved with a passion ?

Anniebach Mon 05-Nov-18 11:58:47

Craicon, exactly how I see it, the first time I watched it and Nina was sobbing as she talked to her therapist I had said much the same a few years before. When Jamie looked at the clouds when closing the window again one can see the two worlds , her world and his world . Sob

gulligranny Mon 05-Nov-18 11:47:00

Thank you Anniebach and Craicon, I now see it in a different light. It is a lovely story beautifully told.

Anniebach Mon 05-Nov-18 10:00:24

I think dramas now go as such a speed this could be thought of as slow 19 years on , I like the way it isn’t done at a speed ?

Willow10 Mon 05-Nov-18 09:55:29

I recorded it knowing that I needed to be in the right frame of mind to watch it. Some days you need a good cry and some days you don't. Now I'm not sure if I should watch it at all - I don't want to be disappointed! confused

Craicon Mon 05-Nov-18 09:49:04

Yes, I agree Anniebach.
It’s a beautiful love story.
When I first watched it I assumed that Jamie came back as a ghost with the deliberate intention to help her with her grief and move on with her life, because he had loved her so much.
That’s why he sheds a tear at the end as he knows it really is ‘the end’.

Craicon Mon 05-Nov-18 09:39:30

I love it as the acting was wonderful and I loved Alan Rickman. Huge crush. blush Some of it was filmed around Bristol, so it brings back a few happy memories. The scene in the cafe was filmed in the Orangery at the University.

Anniebach Mon 05-Nov-18 08:56:40

gulligranny. I really do think so. Taking the story step by step, she is grief stricken, all she wants is him and can’t/ won’t move on. He comes back, she is estatic , she is living in two worlds, working with the living, living with the dead. He obviously loves her and those last minutes when she leaves the flat, leaves the cello, he watches from the window , a smile and tears, she is back in the real world with the living, he is with the dead. I think it is such a moving story and it had to be told slowly. Well this is how I see them ?

oldbatty Mon 05-Nov-18 08:53:57

I can see this is precious to some people but it provoked in me a combination of boredom, frustration and a sense of great loss. Loss of the past, simpler and more optimistic and hopeful times.

Teetime Mon 05-Nov-18 08:52:29

Cant watch it anymore- my friend and I call it ' the film to have a breakdown by'- wrecks me every time.

gulligranny Mon 05-Nov-18 08:43:38

Do you think so, Annie? That hadn't occurred to me, I felt that he'd always been like that and because she so adored him (in life) she was - like so many women - an enabler, easier to let him do what he wanted and not rock the boat, keep his love sweet. Thinking about it, and the congratulations from the other ghosts when Nina went off with (can't remember the character's name) I'm sure you are right.

Anniebach Sun 04-Nov-18 22:41:19

But Jamie was like that because he was back to end their love not to renew it ?

gulligranny Sun 04-Nov-18 22:29:41

I too loved this film and was keen to watch it again last night - and was very disappointed to find that I didn't like it anymore. Nina now seems to be one of those annoyingly manipulative women who think that they can get away with anything because they are beautiful, and as for Jamie! Controlling, sulky, selfish .... but I loved the ghosts, crying over Brief Encounter, All beautifully acted but it no longer touches my heart.

Anniebach Sun 04-Nov-18 22:21:35

Perhaps it seemed to drag because second time around there was a feeling of ‘get to the dramatic bits’ ?

JustGrandma Sun 04-Nov-18 22:00:13

I loved it when it was first released. I watched it last night and it did have a terribly dated feel to it. It's still a lovely and touching story but it seemed to drag on forever. And loads of stuff seemed like unnecessary and tedious padding. I had the same feeling when I revisited A Bouquet of Barbed Wire recently (it's all available on YouTube). In the 1970s I was glued to it every week and on the nights it was due on I would be beside myself with excitement. Again, it's still a very good story but it just seems so old fashioned, and there's lots of hammy acting.

Anniebach Sun 04-Nov-18 21:50:54

I loved it, the different stages of the story , so romantic and so sad , cried again when she cried talking to her therapist, cried when she saw him in the flat, cried when he watched as she left at the end because he was sad yet happy, mission accomplished, Brilliant

Pittcity Sun 04-Nov-18 21:50:18

It all looked so grainy and dated.....
I would've killed him for letting his mates take over....lucky he was dead already.

DisrespectfulWoman Sun 04-Nov-18 21:41:14

I watched it earlier today. I loved it (and cried through it) just as much as ever. Beautiful!

GrandmaKT Sun 04-Nov-18 20:26:42

It's on iplayer Jalima.

Jalima1108 Sun 04-Nov-18 20:21:27

Noooo I missed it!

I don't care how long-winded or tedious - I love Alan Rickman.

Loved. Sorry, still love.

Brunette10 Sun 04-Nov-18 19:46:37

Literally just finished this film. Watched it many years ago but I have to say I must have been in another world at the time. Is it old age? Found it quite tedious and not as emotional/touching as I thought it did first time around. Sorry !

GrandmaKT Sun 04-Nov-18 18:52:38

Did you all watch it? I'm afraid to say I now find it rather long-winded and even tedious. Maybe it's because I'm not young and in love any more! I still LOVED the rendition of Sun Ain't Gonna Shine though!

KatyK Sat 03-Nov-18 18:41:39

Oh thank you. I will record it.

harrysgran Sat 03-Nov-18 18:16:16

Brilliant film it will make me cry buckets but I will enjoy every minute thanks for t smile e reminder

GrandmaKT Sat 03-Nov-18 18:03:51

I loved it (and him!) with a passion at the time. I wonder if it has stood the test of time?

Juggernaut Sat 03-Nov-18 17:59:57

Thanks for the 'heads up' Annie, I've just set it to record!