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Am I the only one who gets irritated by 'Wanted Down Under'?

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Calendargirl Fri 12-Feb-21 18:31:27

My daughter lives there, having married an Australian, so didn’t emigrate.

Not everyone lives near a beach, or has a pool, and as DD points out, there are still the everyday humdrum aspects of life wherever you are.

Work, childcare, housework, cooking, shopping, gardening all have to be done.

The weather can be unbearably hot. They also have bush fires of course, and flooding occasionally. As for the flies.....

DD has been there over 20 years, her life is there, but I know that at times she misses home so much.

She once said she likes to watch Midsomer Murders, “Just to see the English countryside”.

Callistemon Fri 12-Feb-21 17:11:00

Best I don't comment

People have always emigrated and immigrated.

GillT57 Fri 12-Feb-21 17:06:53

We moved away from the majority of our cousins, aunts, uncles and grandparents when we were young children, but it was hundreds of miles, not thousands, we moved closer to one branch of the family, and spent long holidays with grandparents, not possible when you are an awfully long flight away, even assuming everyone is fit to do it. The one I saw today, they were all excited about taking their children to the zoo, as if we don't have world class ones here!! One group which always astound me are medics; now I know they do atrociously long hours here, but would it be any different in Australia? Do people only get ill by appointment and need surgery Monday to Friday 9-5?

maddyone Fri 12-Feb-21 16:28:57

sodapop actually I think it’s harsh of people to take young children, who have loving relationships with their grandparents and other members of their family, particularly cousins of their own age, away to the other side of the world and expect those children not to be hurt and even damaged by being ripped away from people with whom they very often have a very close relationship with, in particular grandparents who have provided childcare for their grandchildren since they were babies.

mokryna Fri 12-Feb-21 16:01:03

Family were being repatriated back to Europe because of job, after five years of sun and beach life. Mother suggested to child after school ‘one last time at the beach’ was asked ‘Must I?’

Oopsadaisy1 Fri 12-Feb-21 15:44:24

GillT57 one of our family members is very upset that he didn’t grow up with all of us in the U.K., he was a young child when they emigrated.

He’s back here now though, but it means that his own family is now ‘down under’. He wishes that they had never gone away, he feels he has missed out on so much, Grandparents, Aunts,Uncles and cousins and he always felt out of place in Australia.

GillT57 Fri 12-Feb-21 15:31:54

I wonder too if those children will resent not having grown up with extended family, cousins they wont really know, grandparents who will age and then be unable to visit.

sodapop Fri 12-Feb-21 15:28:14

Bit harsh maddyone young people often emigrate for a variety of reasons, jobs, lifestyle, adventure etc. Many posters on here have families living abroad, I'm sure they don't see grandparents and other family as unimportant.

maddyone Fri 12-Feb-21 15:23:06

....spend more time as a family.......

But by leaving all their extended family behind, they are indicating to their children that actually extended family, such as grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins have absolutely no value at all. What happens I wonder when those children grow up and see their parents as unimportant and as having no role in the life of their grandchildren?

Lillie Fri 12-Feb-21 15:10:03

It is quite funny really. The houses they aspire to, with pool of course, are always far more expensive than their UK homes. Property isn't cheap down under so that is why both partners need to work. I think the weather is the biggest plus and presumably their kids can go to the beach ater school whereas back home it would be too cold by tea time.
I like Nicky Chapman and her pretty summer dresses though!

GillT57 Fri 12-Feb-21 14:45:21

Yes, I know it is only a programme, and I could, and often do, turn it off, BUT; people so often give their reason for wishing to move to Australia or New Zealand as wishing to spend more time as a family. This is an admirable aim of course, but so often they find they can only afford their fantasy life if the currently part time working parent works full time. I wonder if people factor in the loss of free grandparent childcare? Also, they base their decision on a day at the seaside or a day at the zoo, there are plenty of them here. As for the ones who even consider leaving one of the older children behind.......