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The day the Queen died.

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Serendipity22 Sun 04-Feb-24 19:15:07

Lastnight i watched a programme on channel 4 or 5 titled The day the Queen died. It reduced me to tears and a real sorrow that it was almost like a member of my own family, but in some way, I suppose she was ( obviously not in blood ).

It was really interesting to know how it affected the reporters, the in's and out's of all preparations for that day, the reporters are human too and it was moving to hear their own personal feelings.

I did get a slight feeling that a couple of reporters felt somewhat sorry for how the whole day played out fir Harry ( as some of you know I am in Harry's corner and will remain there )

I am glad I watched the programme.

Anniebach Mon 05-Feb-24 15:45:26

Harry stands behind Megan, if not she physically pulls him back

Sparklefizz Mon 05-Feb-24 15:38:00

I read that the reason Harry didn’t travel with the rest of them was because he was still arguing on the phone about bringing Meghan and missed the flight.

They were not far away yet couldn’t be bothered to visit the Queen. Suddenly she’s dying and they want to be included.

Callistemon21 Mon 05-Feb-24 15:26:38

I hadn't noticed Catherine walking two paces behind William and she often does visits, carries out duties on her own too.

What strange notions some people have.

M0nica Mon 05-Feb-24 15:06:54

Gloryanny I just find it offensive that the only acceptable role for a woman in the RF is to walk behind her husband and smile sweetly. It's the 21st century. Women mean more than that.

But didn't Prince Phillip do exactly the same thing? And Princess Anne's husband Vice-Admiral Timothy Laurence?

In the RF sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.

Joseann Mon 05-Feb-24 13:05:07

*When I arrived, I found ......

Joseann Mon 05-Feb-24 13:04:19

If you were with your mother as she was dying you would agree to a daughter in law who mocked his mother to be there.
Oh gosh, that reminds me of DD's wedding, though obviously not quite as traumatic an occasion as someone dying.
MiL and her DD had never shown any interest in our children so I asked a friend to go ahead to the church and put the Order of Service with their names on and reserved seat cards further back than those of the godparents and bridesmaids' families. When I found had changed the seating and muscled their way to the front. Of course I was too well mannered to create a scene in the middle of the aisle, but their smirky faces still irk me to this day! 😡

Callistemon21 Mon 05-Feb-24 11:18:01

merlotgran

^Quietly, unobtrusively supporting his wife?^

He is someone who knows how everything to do with the Monarchy works as well as being part of the family

And he has the advantage of the press not commenting on his every move.

Because he doesn't court publicity.

merlotgran Mon 05-Feb-24 11:14:15

Quietly, unobtrusively supporting his wife?

He is someone who knows how everything to do with the Monarchy works as well as being part of the family

And he has the advantage of the press not commenting on his every move.

Callistemon21 Mon 05-Feb-24 11:13:29

Joseann

I agree * Lexisgranny*. The lines of communication between father and second son had long broken down, so pussyfooting around was not necessary. According to Harry, Charles starting saying discourteous things about Meghan. I have my doubts whether that is true, but in my opinion the conversation might have been a bit too nuanced.

According to Harry

Well, there we have it. 🙂

Very distressed man, whose beloved mother is dying and knowing what lies ahead for him, has to start explaining to petulant, demanding younger son just why not everyone will be there at the deathbed.

Callistemon21 Mon 05-Feb-24 11:04:53

Joseann

I don't get it, not that it really matters. But Charles told Harry that, "No other wives were coming." So within the group, Catherine wasn't coming, Sarah F wasn't coming, but ..... Sophie Wessex was???

Daughter-in-law and a favourite of the Queen too.

Callistemon21 Mon 05-Feb-24 11:04:03

merlotgran

Where was Princess Anne’s husband in all this?

Quietly, unobtrusively supporting his wife?

He is someone who knows how everything to do with the Monarchy works as well as being part of the family.

Callistemon21 Mon 05-Feb-24 11:02:20

M0nica

They did not tell Harry not to bring Meghan. Robert Hardman gives a detailed description of what happened in his new biography of King Charles.

To be honest, why should she be there? Other grandchildren and there spouses weren't there and both Harry and his wife had decided they didn't want to be royal anymore and had made a new home for themselves in the USA.

This is why.

Callistemon21 Mon 05-Feb-24 11:01:19

Glorianny

Cold

crazyH

And why did they tell Harry not to bring Megan? Just because Kate was busy with school duties, it doesn’t mean that Megan should keep away as well. Don’t understand that, unless I’ve missed something here …..

I don't think I'd want someone sitting by my deathbed who had accused me of racism, said that I had forced "generational pain" onto my children and grandchildren and had sold family gossip to Oprah (Omid Scobie, Netflix specials etc etc) while my husband, the Duke of Edinburgh was dying.

None of the other grandchildren went apart from William and Harry. I think the Princess of Wales agreed to step back rather than have King Charles having to deal with a "not fair" tantrum.

Why would any of the family trust her?

Question is why would Meghan even want to go when she obviously despised the Queen and was keen to sell nasty stories about her? Was it to sell the story for a Netflix special?

Perhaps Meghan wanted to support her husband as he stepped into the lion's den.
The Queen might have been dying, the rest of the people who bullied and threw them out were still there.

😂😂😂

Oh, purlease .....

merlotgran Mon 05-Feb-24 10:51:32

As usual Harry and Meghan have managed to make a sad national event all about them.

Anniebach Mon 05-Feb-24 10:10:11

Calendargirl over many years photographs of the Queen and
Sophie at the races etc.

Thinking of Megans mocking a curtesy to the Queen , what could she do re a deathbed

Calendargirl Mon 05-Feb-24 10:04:05

Sophie was the late Queen’s daughter-in-law, not granddaughter-in-law, as was Catherine and Meghan.

A much longer standing relationship, and probably much closer than either of the younger women.

25Avalon Mon 05-Feb-24 10:00:00

The Queen knew she was dying - was even unsure about Balmoral so as not to be an inconvenience. Is it not possible she had already said her goodbyes? A bit difficult with Harry and Meghan in the US

Anniebach Mon 05-Feb-24 09:57:23

Joseann

But isnt that starting to sound like Charles laying out his reasons which Harry found nonsensical, and disrespectful? At a time like this, just say, "Sophie is the only wife coming, so not Catherine, not Meghan"

Harry is known for truth ?

If you were with your mother as she was dying you would agree to a daughter in law who mocked his mother to be there, they are a family. Let’s not forget a wise decision, Harry told the world what he said to his grandmother when he went to her deathbed

Joseann Mon 05-Feb-24 09:50:27

I agree * Lexisgranny*. The lines of communication between father and second son had long broken down, so pussyfooting around was not necessary. According to Harry, Charles starting saying discourteous things about Meghan. I have my doubts whether that is true, but in my opinion the conversation might have been a bit too nuanced.

Joseann Mon 05-Feb-24 09:44:57

Anniebach

Joseann Sophie was a daughter in law, was very close to the Queen who had known her for about 30 years, Megan wasn’t
close to the Queen, why should the Queen not have had her
daughter and two daughters in law at Balmoral when she was dying?

But isnt that starting to sound like Charles laying out his reasons which Harry found nonsensical, and disrespectful? At a time like this, just say, "Sophie is the only wife coming, so not Catherine, not Meghan"

Lexisgranny Mon 05-Feb-24 09:38:52

Ps. I would add that I think a big mistake made was that travel arrangements were not set in place for Harry to travel to Balmoral. This would, presumably not gone down well with some members of the royal family, so perhaps it might have meant a separate plane to get him there. Yes there would have been an outcry, but that would not have lasted as long as the saga that we have now.

Lexisgranny Mon 05-Feb-24 09:34:30

It’s very sad to think that in the hours after death of a loved one, you have to pick your words carefully to an adult child, who as ‘form’ for repeating conversations for monetary gain. I am not a particular Charles fan, but he was not only a grieving son, but a man who had to deal with matters of state, the thought of the oncoming state funeral as well as his personal loss and the knowledge of the duties that lay ahead.

Anniebach Mon 05-Feb-24 09:30:49

Joseann Sophie was a daughter in law, was very close to the Queen who had known her for about 30 years, Megan wasn’t
close to the Queen, why should the Queen not have had her
daughter and two daughters in law at Balmoral when she was dying?

Joseann Mon 05-Feb-24 09:25:37

Anniebach

Harry claims Charles said Sarah Ferguson was going to Balmoral? How strange

Glorianny wives in the royal family do not walk behind their
husbands

Charles didn't mention Sarah, just "no other wives". I know technically she wasn't his wife, but undoubtedly his partner. Charles was happy enough to have Camilla support him before they were married. But I know what you mean.
I still think Charles worded it poorly.

merlotgran Mon 05-Feb-24 09:20:40

Where was Princess Anne’s husband in all this?