all the au pairs I knew were all nutters, the ones that worked for me were, and others I knew that worked for other people, I had one who was diabetic, and she would deliberately eat a 5 pack of mars bars to put herself into a coma, when in the hospital with her they told me she does it every few months and explained to her that one day they will not be able to save her. others slept with my hubby, stole items, ruined items, honestly it was not worth the hassle, how could I hold down a job when the au pair is unreliable and cannot trust them with my kids