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Do you suffer from music anhedonia

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Whitewavemark2 Sun 17-Aug-25 08:02:16

Some people would consider it an absolute tragedy if they were no longer able to listen to music.

Others - like me - would miss it terribly

Others really wouldn’t bother

Some people are always highly emotionally affected by music, Around 25% of the population are hyperhedonic, which is an almost obsessive urge to engage intensely and frequently with music.

Others like me - can be moved to tears or be made happy by music, but fall into the middle ground

Others - are simply not emotionally connected at all. Between 5-10% of people feel no connection to music.
Those whose brain simply doesn’t process music are described as having music anhedonia (who knew) which means an absence of pleasure in music.

From The Conversation.

I can’t imagine finding zero pleasure in music, nor being unable to appreciate the connectivity with myself and others loving the same piece of music.

There is one piece of music, that always reduces me to tears (senior moment) I can’t think of the title etc but when I do I’ll post it. The Lark Ascending always gives me a real emotional response.

ViceVersa Sun 17-Aug-25 08:10:03

Oh, absolutely - I can't imagine what my life would be like without my music. I've not seen the term hyperhedonic before, but I think I would fall into that category. When I find a band or track I like, it tends to move me very deeply.
And I know my musical tastes are probably very different from many of you on here - I've always been into punk, indie, emo, rock, metal - that kind of thing - but when you form a connection with music (whatever the genre), it really does touch your soul. This is a really interesting post, thanks for sharing it.
I'm not easily moved to tears - but my FiL died in June, and the other week I was sitting in the garden in the sunshine, with my headphones on, listening to one of my favourite songs, which is called Are You Really Okay?, and I just found the tears streaming down my face. At that point, I was very much really not okay.

escaped Sun 17-Aug-25 08:18:35

I guess that's the same with paintings, sculptures, even architecture. Something often moves the senses, (sight, in this case, hearing, in the other). This then translates into feelings, which are stronger in some people than in others.

I'm very receptive to music, I can't drive the car or do the ironing without ClassicFM.
I often have tears in my eyes at concerts, or in films like Schindlers List (John Williams).
We have a professional recording of our wedding music, DH is a chorister so chose well. Is it the actual music, though, or the association that makes me emotional?

whywhywhy Sun 17-Aug-25 08:30:33

I grew up with music in our house. Dad liked jazz and blues. Mam mostly liked Bing Crosby, Frank Ifield etc. If the records weren’t on then the radio was. I love a wide range of music and I’m trying to learn the ukulele.
It cheers me up on dark days.

RosieandherMaw Sun 17-Aug-25 08:31:11

Good question Escaped
I still can’t hear “Sailing By” (the Shipping Forecast music) without feeling a punch in the solar plexus.
When Paw was in hospital and after he died I used to listen to the Shipping Forecast to try to get to sleep- crying myself to sleep more often than not.
Music can be hugely uplifting, moving, nostalgic or just up-cheering.
It can move me to tears (Zadok the Priest or Dido’s Lament) or put a spring in my step -76 Trombones. I am rarely indifferent except alas, to much modern “pop” music but not necessarily all of it.
I could not imagine not feeling an emotional response!

Lathyrus3 Sun 17-Aug-25 09:15:15

It’s all right. I’m not that bothered. Id never think to put music on. A bit like cottage cheese. Id eat it if you gave it to me.

I enjoy a song if the lyrics are good and I quite like male bass voices. Some songs gave an emotional connection but it’s mostly to do with the music making the most of the words.

I positively dislike anything with a high pitch, voice or instrument. It irritates my brain.

Whitewavemark2 Sun 17-Aug-25 09:25:52

I think my use of the word “suffer” in the title is wrong because clearly those who dislike or more accurately are indifferent to music do not suffer as a result.

I think only someone who takes emotional delight in music would see suffering in its absence .

Lathyrus3 Sun 17-Aug-25 09:58:58

I do look at people like Andre Rieu and I can see that music clearly moves him in a way that is incomprehensible to me. I sometimes think it would be nice to get that enjoyment from music but I don’t suffer any more than other people suffer from not enjoying gardening say.

(I nly watch him because my friend likes to have him on. I always do something else at the same time. 😬)

Sparklefizz Sun 17-Aug-25 10:36:41

I grew up with a wide variety of music in the house. Mum played the piano very well. Dad had an eclectic collection of 78 rpm records, many of which he picked up at junk shops, so I grew up with music from the 1930s, 40s and 50s, and then added my own records in the 60s.

I loved the jazz, swing and blues that Dad played. I love piano music and classical (The Lark Ascending, Gymnopedie No. 1, Fur Elise and many more). Music and song lyrics can bring me to tears and can immediately take me back to my childhood, or the youth club, or friends and relationships. I couldn't live without music.

I think I must be hyperhedonic without ever knowing it. Every day's a school day smile

kittylester Sun 17-Aug-25 11:07:26

I really love songs, as opposed to music, as the lyrics are the most important part to me. But I am moved more by songs than poetry. Is there a name for that?

And, the words of love songs get to me more and more.

blue14 Sun 17-Aug-25 11:10:11

Oh - I can't imagine my life without music.

I get great pleasure and enjoyment from listening to music of all genres.
Mainly classical baroque and Indie pop.

Yes - I can be moved to tears depending on the music and at other times I find it uplifting and cheering.

This very moment I'm listening to Dean Lewis. He has such an expressive voice and his lyrics are thoughtful.

BlueBelle Sun 17-Aug-25 11:13:56

I like music but I m much more likely to listen to the spoken word I think I could live without it
There are one or maybe two pieces that can make me cry others I enjoy but not to the extent many of you are talking about so I m a bit in the middle I guess

Whitewavemark2 Sun 17-Aug-25 11:18:28

Yes I guess on the spectrum of say 1 being highly emotional and obsessed about music to 10 - complete indifference.

I’d be a 3-5 I think.

BlueBelle Sun 17-Aug-25 11:19:42

The only one that really gives me a lump in my throat Is Dance with your Daddy Luther Van Dross The one I play over and over when I m on the boring walk to the allotment is David Drayman from Disturbed singing Sound of Silence it has to be his rendition no other
Apart from that I listen most of the time to spoken word

MayBee70 Sun 17-Aug-25 11:35:04

Many years ago my neighbours son tragically died in a car crash just before Christmas. My favourite song at the time was by Nick Kershaw. I still can’t listen to that song, much as I love it. I learned after that to stop playing music if anything bad was happening in my life because I knew I wouldn’t be able to listen to it in the future. If certain songs come on the radio I will be immediately transported back to that moment in time. My eyes welled up listening to The New World when it was on the Proms the other week. Such a gift to be able to create music that affects people so much. I had no idea that some people weren’t affected by music in any way.

Floradora9 Sun 17-Aug-25 11:53:48

I would hate to live without classical music . I was never a fan of pop groups evan as a teenager but love the music of so many composers. There is one opera that I just cannot listen to , not even one aria , and that is " La Boheme " it just reduces me to tears in the first bars .
I had to smile when someone mentioned Zadok the priest. I had an elderly aunt who was a lovely singer who called it Kodak Priest.
I just hate Ravel's Bolero ( think Torville and Dean ) and " The Lark ascending " Both are monotous .

hollysteers Sun 17-Aug-25 12:14:27

I’m bordering on hyperherdonic. A classical singer all my life, music has been a constant for me. Strangely, now I’m older (old), I don’t listen as much or sing either for that matter, but keep my hand in. Every day I do listen to some music, mainly classical, but dance around to pop for exercise.

I go regularly to symphony concerts in the city and always sit near the front, to feel part of the orchestra. I’m often completely overwhelmed, choked up, but exhilarated. I’d like to pop my clogs sitting near the front overcome by beautiful music!
Since my DH died, sadly there are some pieces I find very difficult to listen to and he was musical too.

I’m often surprised by guests on Desert Island Discs who say they don’t like music and think “Have they no heart?” or guests I respect who choose eight pop tunes and no classical. I’m afraid they go down in my estimation and I do enjoy pop, but really?

Gelisajams Sun 17-Aug-25 12:46:39

That’s definitely me. I think of it as being musically blind!
I never think to listen to music and some music just annoys me more than others. I can’t sing either my voice just doesn’t work. I’m not tone deaf - apparently I just can’t sing.
My son is just the opposite he can turn his hand to playing a lot of instruments by ear and once said he’d rather lose his sight than his hearing he’d miss music so much!

merlotgran Sun 17-Aug-25 12:57:19

I couldn’t live without music but there is so much that is painful to listen to. Dido’s Lament absolutely floors me as does Cat Stevens singing, ‘How Can I Tell You?’ It sums up how much I will never stop missing DD1 🥲
Choral Music is uplifting though. I miss singing in a large choir but I don’t miss the commitment, especially during the winter months.

OldFrill Sun 17-Aug-25 13:05:32

I live next door to musicians, it's a privilege.

AmberGran Sun 17-Aug-25 13:08:04

It’s all right. I’m not that bothered. Id never think to put music on. A bit like cottage cheese. Id eat it if you gave it to me.

grin That's almost me - I do like music but I rarely think to put it on. I have absolutely zilch musicality so maybe that's why. Some music can reduce me to tears, partly from memories but also the piece itself.

Babs03 Sun 17-Aug-25 13:57:18

My husband loved music before he had a stroke, would put it on all the time, usually hits from the sixties and seventies as well as some recent stuff. It drove me up the wall, I mean I like music but only when I am in the mood and it has to be something I like not just background noise.
Sadly my DH no longer loves music and doesn’t want it on anymore, not even the love songs we both snuggled up to in the early days. It breaks my heart.

Moonwatcher1904 Sun 17-Aug-25 14:10:13

I've loved music since my older sister had a record player and would play Little White Bull (Tommy Steele) when I was a child. Then I listed to Radio Luxembourg/Radio Caroline in my early teens. Lots of albums, singles, tapes and cd's through the years. I've now progressed to transferring a lot of cd's on to memory sticks for playing in the car.

Jaxjacky Sun 17-Aug-25 14:30:15

If certain tracks are played on the radio turn it up, some (sweet child of mine) for the actual song, some for the memories, but I never specifically choose something then sit and listen to it, I’m always doing something else at the same time.

NotAGran55 Sun 17-Aug-25 14:53:56

I couldn’t imagine life without music. My heart even beats faster in anticipation of my favourite musician walking out onto the stage, even before a note is played. So many pieces of music reduce me to tears.