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Do you suffer from music anhedonia

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Whitewavemark2 Sun 17-Aug-25 08:02:16

Some people would consider it an absolute tragedy if they were no longer able to listen to music.

Others - like me - would miss it terribly

Others really wouldn’t bother

Some people are always highly emotionally affected by music, Around 25% of the population are hyperhedonic, which is an almost obsessive urge to engage intensely and frequently with music.

Others like me - can be moved to tears or be made happy by music, but fall into the middle ground

Others - are simply not emotionally connected at all. Between 5-10% of people feel no connection to music.
Those whose brain simply doesn’t process music are described as having music anhedonia (who knew) which means an absence of pleasure in music.

From The Conversation.

I can’t imagine finding zero pleasure in music, nor being unable to appreciate the connectivity with myself and others loving the same piece of music.

There is one piece of music, that always reduces me to tears (senior moment) I can’t think of the title etc but when I do I’ll post it. The Lark Ascending always gives me a real emotional response.

Musicgirl Mon 18-Aug-25 15:17:27

Music has been my life all my life. I can’t imagine life without it and my failing hearing doesn’t help. I now have very powerful hearing aids with a special music programme. I love listening to it in bed but have to remember to take my aids out before I go to sleep. I always have music in my head even when I am not playing it or listening to it. I can read a piece of sheet music without playing it and hear it in my head at pitch, too. Music can express the full range of emotions far more than words can. Far too many to choose from but a couple of examples from Mozart spring to mind. The finale from the clarinet concerto is full of joie de vivre but the second movement of his piano concerto number twenty is so painfully beautiful that it never fails to bring a lump to one’s throat.

mokryna Mon 18-Aug-25 15:09:22

When I was young and before I came to France my radio was always on, radios Luxembourg, London, Caroline and any other offshore one plus as a last resort, Radio 1. Back in the late 70’s the French government had a thing against foreign music, so very little was played on the music station, plus the fact they had to explain every bit of music, drove me mad. So I stopped listening to music and when I listen to it now, I feel wistful . So I don’t very often.

FranP Mon 18-Aug-25 14:38:04

I do love my music and have an eclectic taste, but not too loud and intrusive.

A recent Warner's holiday made me think that they must cater for the deaf!

glammagran Mon 18-Aug-25 14:02:04

I listen to music just about every day. I don’t listen to popular artists though. I’m keen on modern jazz and prog rock.

Romola Mon 18-Aug-25 14:00:06

I'm another who needs my music fix, Went to London on Saturday for the amazing Prom concert. It was televised last night on BBC4 and I saw it all again, with close-ups.
So grateful that Radio 3 exists, even Through the Night.
Too much of Radio 4 has self-regarding people talking for the sake of it.

Colls Mon 18-Aug-25 13:58:48

I have something different. All my life some music has made my far too emotional. As a child, songs like Puff The Magic Dragon, and On Top Of Old Smokey, I'm forever Blowing Bubbles, Edelweiss, just made me cry.
Of course my family found fun in surprising me with one of these. It was so bad even the sight of the record player being put on would start me off bawling.

Some songs get into my brain and I cannot sleep. Eg. Sailing to Philadelphia or Alexandra Leaving. I enjoy some music but have to take care even now and limit myself to songs that don't do that.

swampy1961 Mon 18-Aug-25 10:02:39

I think I would fall into the middle ground here - DH and I go through stages where we may spend an evening listening music which he has downloaded. Occasionally, like the other night we drifted into watching a couple of programmes about Roy Orbison. Now I cannot get Leah out of my head - LLeeeeeaaaahhhh, Lleeeeeaaaaahhhh!! hmm

srn63 Mon 18-Aug-25 09:52:25

It never crosses my mind to put music on, it never has. I liked music in Discos when I was young but have never bought a record or cd etc. My husband loves music but listens in his workshop. It just gets on my nerves if I am anywhere where music is playing above the lowest level to the point that I have to leave or ask to turn it down. On the other hand I love a talking book.

Jennerdysphoria Sun 17-Aug-25 20:39:12

Well I'm glad to have this explanation of music anhedonia. I quite like music, but can take it or leave it. Very few pieces move me, and then only the more dramatic and 'obvious' ones, like Tchaikovsky's. Every so often I try to understand the passion that other people obviously feel from classical music, but mostly I just don't get it.

NotAGran55 Sun 17-Aug-25 14:53:56

I couldn’t imagine life without music. My heart even beats faster in anticipation of my favourite musician walking out onto the stage, even before a note is played. So many pieces of music reduce me to tears.

Jaxjacky Sun 17-Aug-25 14:30:15

If certain tracks are played on the radio turn it up, some (sweet child of mine) for the actual song, some for the memories, but I never specifically choose something then sit and listen to it, I’m always doing something else at the same time.

Moonwatcher1904 Sun 17-Aug-25 14:10:13

I've loved music since my older sister had a record player and would play Little White Bull (Tommy Steele) when I was a child. Then I listed to Radio Luxembourg/Radio Caroline in my early teens. Lots of albums, singles, tapes and cd's through the years. I've now progressed to transferring a lot of cd's on to memory sticks for playing in the car.

Babs03 Sun 17-Aug-25 13:57:18

My husband loved music before he had a stroke, would put it on all the time, usually hits from the sixties and seventies as well as some recent stuff. It drove me up the wall, I mean I like music but only when I am in the mood and it has to be something I like not just background noise.
Sadly my DH no longer loves music and doesn’t want it on anymore, not even the love songs we both snuggled up to in the early days. It breaks my heart.

AmberGran Sun 17-Aug-25 13:08:04

It’s all right. I’m not that bothered. Id never think to put music on. A bit like cottage cheese. Id eat it if you gave it to me.

grin That's almost me - I do like music but I rarely think to put it on. I have absolutely zilch musicality so maybe that's why. Some music can reduce me to tears, partly from memories but also the piece itself.

OldFrill Sun 17-Aug-25 13:05:32

I live next door to musicians, it's a privilege.

merlotgran Sun 17-Aug-25 12:57:19

I couldn’t live without music but there is so much that is painful to listen to. Dido’s Lament absolutely floors me as does Cat Stevens singing, ‘How Can I Tell You?’ It sums up how much I will never stop missing DD1 🥲
Choral Music is uplifting though. I miss singing in a large choir but I don’t miss the commitment, especially during the winter months.

Gelisajams Sun 17-Aug-25 12:46:39

That’s definitely me. I think of it as being musically blind!
I never think to listen to music and some music just annoys me more than others. I can’t sing either my voice just doesn’t work. I’m not tone deaf - apparently I just can’t sing.
My son is just the opposite he can turn his hand to playing a lot of instruments by ear and once said he’d rather lose his sight than his hearing he’d miss music so much!

hollysteers Sun 17-Aug-25 12:14:27

I’m bordering on hyperherdonic. A classical singer all my life, music has been a constant for me. Strangely, now I’m older (old), I don’t listen as much or sing either for that matter, but keep my hand in. Every day I do listen to some music, mainly classical, but dance around to pop for exercise.

I go regularly to symphony concerts in the city and always sit near the front, to feel part of the orchestra. I’m often completely overwhelmed, choked up, but exhilarated. I’d like to pop my clogs sitting near the front overcome by beautiful music!
Since my DH died, sadly there are some pieces I find very difficult to listen to and he was musical too.

I’m often surprised by guests on Desert Island Discs who say they don’t like music and think “Have they no heart?” or guests I respect who choose eight pop tunes and no classical. I’m afraid they go down in my estimation and I do enjoy pop, but really?

Floradora9 Sun 17-Aug-25 11:53:48

I would hate to live without classical music . I was never a fan of pop groups evan as a teenager but love the music of so many composers. There is one opera that I just cannot listen to , not even one aria , and that is " La Boheme " it just reduces me to tears in the first bars .
I had to smile when someone mentioned Zadok the priest. I had an elderly aunt who was a lovely singer who called it Kodak Priest.
I just hate Ravel's Bolero ( think Torville and Dean ) and " The Lark ascending " Both are monotous .

MayBee70 Sun 17-Aug-25 11:35:04

Many years ago my neighbours son tragically died in a car crash just before Christmas. My favourite song at the time was by Nick Kershaw. I still can’t listen to that song, much as I love it. I learned after that to stop playing music if anything bad was happening in my life because I knew I wouldn’t be able to listen to it in the future. If certain songs come on the radio I will be immediately transported back to that moment in time. My eyes welled up listening to The New World when it was on the Proms the other week. Such a gift to be able to create music that affects people so much. I had no idea that some people weren’t affected by music in any way.

BlueBelle Sun 17-Aug-25 11:19:42

The only one that really gives me a lump in my throat Is Dance with your Daddy Luther Van Dross The one I play over and over when I m on the boring walk to the allotment is David Drayman from Disturbed singing Sound of Silence it has to be his rendition no other
Apart from that I listen most of the time to spoken word

Whitewavemark2 Sun 17-Aug-25 11:18:28

Yes I guess on the spectrum of say 1 being highly emotional and obsessed about music to 10 - complete indifference.

I’d be a 3-5 I think.

BlueBelle Sun 17-Aug-25 11:13:56

I like music but I m much more likely to listen to the spoken word I think I could live without it
There are one or maybe two pieces that can make me cry others I enjoy but not to the extent many of you are talking about so I m a bit in the middle I guess

blue14 Sun 17-Aug-25 11:10:11

Oh - I can't imagine my life without music.

I get great pleasure and enjoyment from listening to music of all genres.
Mainly classical baroque and Indie pop.

Yes - I can be moved to tears depending on the music and at other times I find it uplifting and cheering.

This very moment I'm listening to Dean Lewis. He has such an expressive voice and his lyrics are thoughtful.

kittylester Sun 17-Aug-25 11:07:26

I really love songs, as opposed to music, as the lyrics are the most important part to me. But I am moved more by songs than poetry. Is there a name for that?

And, the words of love songs get to me more and more.