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Do you suffer from music anhedonia

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Sparklefizz Sun 17-Aug-25 10:36:41

I grew up with a wide variety of music in the house. Mum played the piano very well. Dad had an eclectic collection of 78 rpm records, many of which he picked up at junk shops, so I grew up with music from the 1930s, 40s and 50s, and then added my own records in the 60s.

I loved the jazz, swing and blues that Dad played. I love piano music and classical (The Lark Ascending, Gymnopedie No. 1, Fur Elise and many more). Music and song lyrics can bring me to tears and can immediately take me back to my childhood, or the youth club, or friends and relationships. I couldn't live without music.

I think I must be hyperhedonic without ever knowing it. Every day's a school day smile

Lathyrus3 Sun 17-Aug-25 09:58:58

I do look at people like Andre Rieu and I can see that music clearly moves him in a way that is incomprehensible to me. I sometimes think it would be nice to get that enjoyment from music but I don’t suffer any more than other people suffer from not enjoying gardening say.

(I nly watch him because my friend likes to have him on. I always do something else at the same time. 😬)

Whitewavemark2 Sun 17-Aug-25 09:25:52

I think my use of the word “suffer” in the title is wrong because clearly those who dislike or more accurately are indifferent to music do not suffer as a result.

I think only someone who takes emotional delight in music would see suffering in its absence .

Lathyrus3 Sun 17-Aug-25 09:15:15

It’s all right. I’m not that bothered. Id never think to put music on. A bit like cottage cheese. Id eat it if you gave it to me.

I enjoy a song if the lyrics are good and I quite like male bass voices. Some songs gave an emotional connection but it’s mostly to do with the music making the most of the words.

I positively dislike anything with a high pitch, voice or instrument. It irritates my brain.

RosieandherMaw Sun 17-Aug-25 08:31:11

Good question Escaped
I still can’t hear “Sailing By” (the Shipping Forecast music) without feeling a punch in the solar plexus.
When Paw was in hospital and after he died I used to listen to the Shipping Forecast to try to get to sleep- crying myself to sleep more often than not.
Music can be hugely uplifting, moving, nostalgic or just up-cheering.
It can move me to tears (Zadok the Priest or Dido’s Lament) or put a spring in my step -76 Trombones. I am rarely indifferent except alas, to much modern “pop” music but not necessarily all of it.
I could not imagine not feeling an emotional response!

whywhywhy Sun 17-Aug-25 08:30:33

I grew up with music in our house. Dad liked jazz and blues. Mam mostly liked Bing Crosby, Frank Ifield etc. If the records weren’t on then the radio was. I love a wide range of music and I’m trying to learn the ukulele.
It cheers me up on dark days.

escaped Sun 17-Aug-25 08:18:35

I guess that's the same with paintings, sculptures, even architecture. Something often moves the senses, (sight, in this case, hearing, in the other). This then translates into feelings, which are stronger in some people than in others.

I'm very receptive to music, I can't drive the car or do the ironing without ClassicFM.
I often have tears in my eyes at concerts, or in films like Schindlers List (John Williams).
We have a professional recording of our wedding music, DH is a chorister so chose well. Is it the actual music, though, or the association that makes me emotional?

ViceVersa Sun 17-Aug-25 08:10:03

Oh, absolutely - I can't imagine what my life would be like without my music. I've not seen the term hyperhedonic before, but I think I would fall into that category. When I find a band or track I like, it tends to move me very deeply.
And I know my musical tastes are probably very different from many of you on here - I've always been into punk, indie, emo, rock, metal - that kind of thing - but when you form a connection with music (whatever the genre), it really does touch your soul. This is a really interesting post, thanks for sharing it.
I'm not easily moved to tears - but my FiL died in June, and the other week I was sitting in the garden in the sunshine, with my headphones on, listening to one of my favourite songs, which is called Are You Really Okay?, and I just found the tears streaming down my face. At that point, I was very much really not okay.

Whitewavemark2 Sun 17-Aug-25 08:02:16

Some people would consider it an absolute tragedy if they were no longer able to listen to music.

Others - like me - would miss it terribly

Others really wouldn’t bother

Some people are always highly emotionally affected by music, Around 25% of the population are hyperhedonic, which is an almost obsessive urge to engage intensely and frequently with music.

Others like me - can be moved to tears or be made happy by music, but fall into the middle ground

Others - are simply not emotionally connected at all. Between 5-10% of people feel no connection to music.
Those whose brain simply doesn’t process music are described as having music anhedonia (who knew) which means an absence of pleasure in music.

From The Conversation.

I can’t imagine finding zero pleasure in music, nor being unable to appreciate the connectivity with myself and others loving the same piece of music.

There is one piece of music, that always reduces me to tears (senior moment) I can’t think of the title etc but when I do I’ll post it. The Lark Ascending always gives me a real emotional response.