Spidergran
I Lead a very busy life like most folks today, part-time job, Grandchildren to childmind. I also fit in time to exercise and look after myself physically, watch that I eat as healthy as possible, try to manage the effects of onset of Menopause so why? why?why? when my head finally hits the pillow (silk of course to help bedhead hair and prevent wrinkles), freshly laundered sheets, light supper, dark room, warm bath, quiet meditation does the brain switch into the whirly swirly dance around mode with thoughts and worries popping up from nowhere to be tossed about for hours before sleep finally pays a visit??
Establish a firm rule with yourself that the next time negative thoughts dance through your head when you’re in bed you’ll tell yourself, ‘This is not the time. ’ Your bed is for sleeping, not worrying. Just as you now have an allotted time for worrying (you can use worry time in the day as described above for Gillybob), when you’re in bed that’s your allotted time for sleeping – and the times shouldn’t overlap. Whenever you catch yourself stressing or worrying throughout the day, tell yourself you’ll come back to the worry at the specified time and then immediately focus your mind back onto the current task. Be strict with yourself on postponing these thoughts – don’t let your mind wander into these now time-limited zones. It’s become a habit to go over and over the things that are stressing you out, so by postponing them you can build a new, more healthy habit.