Sex and relationships webchat with Trudy Hannington

Oh yes! We can all have a good old moan about our DHs (again) and get some Expert Advice...

Oh look! It is about "relationships" as well! Why do we only seem to have noticed the "sex" part?

If anyone comes on this thread with the forum name notjingl, that is not me. Ok?

No! #lifeintheoldboyyet

Perhaps forget the defibrillator and opt for a vibrator instead?

Perhaps Trudy could let me know by next Wednesday please.

But they might not be lurkers, really...

I've got a question too!

What age should you have a defibrillator standing by in the bedroom?

Well I've got a question. Note no change of name!

What if?

You are 52. Knackered. Working in a thankless job for virtually no wages. Running around after 3 grandchildren, 2 adult children, 1 demanding DiL, 1 single sister, 1 very ill (disabled mum), 1 very depressed dad and 1 EXTREMELY demanding 98 year old grandma?

How on earth can I find time to be, or feel sexy? Note no mention of husband. Bless him. He doesn't get a look in.

See! I'm regretting this already.

We'll leave it to the lurkers.

When I say "do it" I mean, think of a question. Not........! (I can remember how that goes. I think.)

Well, perhaps one day next week, I'll let him have a go, and see how we get on. Then if any questions arise, I might start the ball rolling.

I can't do it from memory.

I agree, Galen!

For heavens sake! If we have questions at our time pf life, as an intelligent bunch, I hope we would have asked them and got answered by now!

It's a shame we can't think of anything to ask. I do hope there are others asking behind the scenes. I've been wracking my brains, but frankly I am realistic enough to know that any problems I may have with DBH in the future, lovely as he is, would be easily solvable with the aid of a size ten blonde 25 year old in the nude.

Last Tango on Gransnet!

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Only joking Luce.

I'm not saying I've got a question! I could make some up though

Anyway, if we change our name to ask a question, they'll still know who it is at HQ!

I agree Grannyknot. Despite being really, really old with one or two minor health issues, DH and I are quite 'satisfied'!

I remember watching a tv drama series called Tell Me You Love Me which showed sexual encounters in a non-shocking, quite matter of fact way, and included an older woman as one character, who was the therapist. I do remember being surprised when it showed her and her equally 'mature' husband...
I thought it quite refreshing that the grey-haired couple weren't just portrayed as ready for Horlicks and nothing else!

Shows how unusual that is for me to remember - you hardly ever see passion between older people on tv.

It's not that late as the love of my life does not return from his day's grind until 18:35

Hi Trudy, thank you for coming on Gransnet. I don't have any questions, I'm quite happy with my relationship and my body, my partner's and our desires. I just thought it would make a change hearing from someone in our age group who is entirely satisfied.

I do struggle with the way sex is portrayed in films and other media now,as compared to when I was young, because I feel that the boundaries of what is acceptable are constantly being pushed. Is there an answer to how that can be challenged in our society? (I don't think so, other than looking after one's own sensibilities). Just the other night, my husband and I looked at each other and simultaneously said "I can't watch this" and turned off a film we had been waiting to see for a while.