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Following on from those very sensible suggestions - what if an OH is too shy to go to the doctor to ask for Viagra? I have heard that there are all sorts of dodgy substitutes out there.
I read somewhere that there are only sexual problems in a relationship if one person in the couple is unhappy with the way things are. Which may seem obvious, but many people think they have a problem purely because so many other people think they ought to be having more sex. All those magazine surveys have a lot to answer for, and how do we know people are telling the truth? The surveys I used to read in magazines (now given them up, too many adverts) all showed that sex lives slowed down hugely when people are only in their 40s. Older couples may part company and find a new partner, but then the desire once more settles down very quickly into affection, often after only a year or so. Some people have a very high sex drive, others do not, and it's really a bit of a lottery as to who you end up with, isn't it.
To say nothing of all the illnesses and ailments, stresses and tiredness, worry about ageing bodies and impotence. Boredom with the same old sexual routine but not wanting to hurt your partner's feelings.
Besides - I have been to a few dinner parties lately where there have been a mixture of older and us slightly younger couples. One of my friends is in her 50s, like me, and given to wearing low-cut tops and has a very flirtatious manner. Rather than being charmed by her, as all men seemed to be only a few years ago, the older ones in their mid 60s and above looked plain scared!
If your OH wont see the GP then you can access Viagra or one of the other similar drugs as there are now 4 available, so if the first one doesn’t work it is worth trying one of the others.
If you want to access on line safely then either Lloyds online chemist or Pharmact2u are very reputable. Your OH would need to complete an online questionnaire and he would get a response which will either say yes or no to the drug and then they will be sent in the post. It's quite an easy process but you will have to pay and prices vary so look at both sites.
You are right, it is only a problem if the couple are unhappy if one person in the relationship doesn’t want to be sexual. Lots of couples live without sex in their relationship and are perfectly happy.
I often say a relationship starts with lust then it progresses to love then unfortunately it can become boring! Again you are right - life gets in the way. Illness, stress and tiredness have a lot to answer for!