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Substitute grandparent required!

(25 Posts)
LottieSweetpea Fri 05-Aug-16 10:21:35

My mother in law did this voluntarily before her own grandchildren came along
Arranged through the church and both she and the young mother and child benefited from the company but it was on an "as convenient " basis

DaphneBroon Fri 05-Aug-16 09:24:17

I wonder if she hoped some kind member from the Amersham area would up and volunteer!! Maybe somebody has hmm but more likely it was wishful thinking.
It does bug me that anybody who has chosen to follow a career should quibble at paying the going rate for even an advertisement. And OP refers to her parents, so why does she call this home help/childminder a "substitute grandparent".

gettingonabit Fri 05-Aug-16 06:45:40

I found a different one, then!

Anyway, the op seems to have disappeared. Perhaps she was taking the pee.

DaphneBroon Thu 04-Aug-16 22:29:14

AMERSHAM!! grin

DaphneBroon Thu 04-Aug-16 21:59:54

1. APPLY ONLINE
2. MAKE PAYMENT (£65 Standard / £75 Fast Track)
3. RECEIVE YOUR BASIC DISCLOSURE WITHIN 7-14

This is what I found.

gettingonabit Thu 04-Aug-16 18:12:17

daphne I've just looked it up and according to the site I looked at, it's 27 and 44£. But not free. I stand corrected.

chelseababy Thu 04-Aug-16 18:07:18

I thought OP said she lived in Amsterdam ! How about an au pair ?

DaphneBroon Thu 04-Aug-16 17:49:46

DBS. Check £55 standard application, £65 fast track application, so no, not free gettingonabit!

Nelliemoser Thu 04-Aug-16 17:19:27

I would ask, are you thinking of a registered child minder or not. You really must read this link.

It defines the law about childminding. Do you not have and after school clubs in Amersham?

www.gov.uk/register-childminder-childcare-provider/overview

BUT
"You can get an unlimited fine or be sent to prison or both if you provide childminding or daycare services without being registered."

Nonnie Thu 04-Aug-16 16:51:48

Are there still newsagents in Amersham in which you could place a card? There used to be when I lived there many years ago.

I think you should make it very clear that this is a job and that you will do all the checks and check all references. I think you also need to look into your liabilities with insurance and pensions.

I think an after school club might be a lot easier and then your child could play with friends after school.

Christinefrance Thu 04-Aug-16 16:20:14

Must admit to being both scared and cross with this post. How can you trust any granny type person with your most treasured possession, Being older does not preclude being criminal, stringent checks need to be in place before employing anyone you will leave with your children. Sound to me like Mrswoods is looking for cheap labour and grannies will be happy to do it - not.
Think again.

gettingonabit Thu 04-Aug-16 16:12:44

Obviously you'd want to be completely satisfied with the integrity of a potential candidate. But I don't see why an agency would do a better job necessarily. I think a dbs check is free, and many people have them anyway.

Actually I think the op is a tad unrealistic in her expectations. And a bit naïve. You never know, though.

DaphneBroon Thu 04-Aug-16 15:55:48

I have no idea what the cost implications would be of DBS checking, first aid qualifications, etc but you don't just hand a child over without the most stringent checks on the suitability of an application do you? Being a sweet natured old dear doesn't cut it and I am shocked at how easily some parents seem to be willing to hand over their children to a " kindly soul".

DaphneBroon Thu 04-Aug-16 15:33:40

If OP's free press quoted £150 for a recruitment ad, I agree it seems a lot, but a week's/month's wage/salary is far from being an unusual finding fee.
Deep down I think my hackles rose at the correlation of a grandparent with someone "who picks up from school AND does the ironing!!"
Just get a childminder and find an ironing service.

gettingonabit Thu 04-Aug-16 15:25:30

I'm not sure what an agency can do that the op can't though? She knows what she wants. Many people do not use agencies to look for work.

DaphneBroon Thu 04-Aug-16 15:05:57

Then she should be happy to pay the requisite recruitment fee too.

gettingonabit Thu 04-Aug-16 15:02:27

daphne I think the OP is happy to pay!

DaphneBroon Thu 04-Aug-16 15:00:50

Childminder who also does ironing.
hmm why am I, as a granny, not feeling particularly flattered?
If you want a job doing, be prepared to pay the going rate for it, do not presume upon the kindness of others!

gettingonabit Thu 04-Aug-16 12:45:29

You need to be clear on what you're looking for too. Sounds as though you're seeking a cross between Supergran and Mary Poppins.

I think the term is "mother's help"?. I'd put an ad on Gumtree to start with, to test the market. Are you employing the person directly?

Mumsy Thu 04-Aug-16 12:17:04

As Daphne says its not straight forward now a days with all the checks that have to be made regarding looking after children. Also looking at the other side of the coin would an older person want to be a substitute grandparent.
If you are wanting to pay someone then you will have to go down the employment route as you are basically asking for a child minder, it could all get very complicated.

DaphneBroon Thu 04-Aug-16 11:58:44

All sorts of hoops to be jumped through these days, I would be very very reluctant to advertise.

gettingonabit Thu 04-Aug-16 11:56:18

Gumtree?

Charleygirl Thu 04-Aug-16 11:11:31

There has been a lengthy conversation about this subject recently. You may be better to look up the old thread.

MrsWoods Thu 04-Aug-16 11:02:52

(Obviously I'm looking to pay someone but I still don't want to go down the "recruitment" route).

MrsWoods Thu 04-Aug-16 11:01:38

Hi all,

When I was little we had a home help who was an older lady that was like a grandma to me. She picked us up from school, helped with some of the ironing and gave us our tea. I'm in a similar situation to my parents in that me and my husband work full time and I'd love to find a substitute grandparent for my son but I've no idea how to start finding one!

My parents listed an advert in the local classifieds but Bucks Free Press have told me it starts from £150 for a "recruitment ad".

Any ideas gratefully received.

Best wishes

Elizabeth

PS I live in Amersham, if that helps.