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Is Volunteering a moral duty to "give something back"?

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biglouis Thu 29-Sept-22 17:51:47

Interesting thread on mumsnet with an OP suggesting that those of us who retire in good health - particularly younger retirees - have some kind of moral duty to "give something back" to the community.

People volunteer for all kinds of reasons and often for reasons which will also benefit them - company, a new interest, giving structure to their time, etc - as much as to benefit a client or service user group.

I dont volunteer because I run an antiques business. So I am still providing a valuable service whereby old things are recycled and 90% of my stuff goes international. When I look back at the work I did as an employed person, the years of effort to qualify and the high taxes I paid I feel Ive put more than enough into the kitty already.

M0nica Sat 01-Oct-22 09:02:54

i think one of the joys of volunteering is that you can choose what you do. Unlike working where you quite often need to do a not very interesting or boring job because you need the money, with volunteering you can pick and choose to make sure that your do work you enjoy and therfore enables you to give more to other people.

When my children were small i was involved with the PTAs and a children's charity my children received benefit from. I was also politically involved.

When I retired the first voluntary job I took, enabled me to continue to use my work skills in different circumstances. The second one with a heritage organisation, followed up on an interest I had. I also have a longstanding hobby which is centred on history and heritage and I there isn't aa post on the committee (chairman, secretary, treasurer, etc etc etc) that I haven't held.

Madgran77 Sat 01-Oct-22 06:49:43

Volunteering is a 2 way thing. It both gives to society and gives to the Volunteer. I don't think there is a moral duty to volunteer but morally it is right to help others if you can

biglouis Sat 01-Oct-22 00:30:34

the library service has faced savage cuts. At the same time, it is more difficult for people to train as qualified librarians

There used to be many routes into librarianship back in the 1960s when I entered and subsequently took the professional exams. However the nature of the profession changed in the late 1970s to that of a degree oriented qualification. At the same time local authorities began to cut back on services like libraries, museums and art galleries because they did not bring in funds. Having seen the writing on the wall I returned to education in my mid years to do a series of degrees. I never returned to the profession since I became an academic.

Its true that the profession of librarianship - now known as librarianship and information science - has changed out of all recognition. Libraries are no longer quiet havens for study but have had to try to become all things to all people. Never a good thing.

Jaxjacky Fri 30-Sept-22 16:00:22

I do that now Witzend. I like doing it it, meet different people, keeps my brain ticking over too.

Cabbie21 Fri 30-Sept-22 14:11:47

I have never felt it a moral duty to volunteer. When my children were small i ran a mums and toddlers group because I wanted to, it was a service to the community and to my church, and fitted in with my family.
When I retired I needed something to do to keep my brain active, to mix wth others, to do something helpful. Every client I support is so grateful that it encourages me to continue.

lovebeigecardigans1955 Fri 30-Sept-22 13:20:52

No, I don't think any of us have a moral duty to volunteer our services after retirement. I did a bit when I worked part-time, and I felt useful, but it was tiring.

Many of my jobs were fairly lowly, I was often overworked and underpaid and sometimes treated as if I was brainless. Why the heck should I do more of that for free?

I can fill my time as I wish with enjoyable hobbies, and I'm never bored. I jolly well earned my retirement.

Doodledog Fri 30-Sept-22 11:42:00

JaneJudge

I'm uncomfortable with the idea that some volunteering is taking what should be paid jobs off people.

Just to throw the cat amongst the pigeons.

As local services have been cut, some charities that rely on volunteers have had to make up the short fall and sometimes it often isn't appropriate.

I agree, and not just for charities. As examples, the library service has faced savage cuts. At the same time, it is more difficult for people to train as qualified librarians, as bursaries were cut some time ago. Now anyone with a Masters degree is ineligible for a student loan to fund another one, even if they paid for the first one themselves (not just for librarians - this is true of all subjects). Many librarians used to enter the profession as a career change, but that route is now all but closed, as people can't afford to take time off to retrain as well as pay the fees upfront with no bursary to help with finances.

Not only that, but many libraries now have volunteer staff who are very well-intentioned but not qualified, and the whole nature of libraries has changed. Where once people could use them as a peaceful haven to write letters, complete application forms, learn to use computers etc, now they have knitting groups, children's story sessions and all manner of other noisy things going on in the name of inclusivity. All of that is nice for the people who go, and it's better that libraries are being used than closed, but it is now far more difficult for people with no quiet space at home to find a table, a computer and a bit of peace if they need it, whether to study for an exam or to fill in a form. Community centres should cater for group activities, and leave libraries as reading spaces. Dyslexics, people with ADHD and similar conditions often need the sort of quiet concentration that is hard to find in a busy family home. Not all unqualified staff are able to help with queries about where to find specialist information, so again, the nature of the service is different now, and meanwhile, paid jobs are being cut for both librarians and library assistants.

Another example is in schools, where well-meaning parents do the work of paid teaching assistants. When my children were at school, TAs were relatively rare, and it was (usually) mums who went in to help. Some were unmitigated busybodies who gossiped about the children (with no overview of possible reasons for the snapshots of behaviour they saw), and weren't constrained by the threat of being sacked. One 'jokingly' told my vegetarian son that it was ok to eat turkey dinosaurs (on the lunch menu) if he stuck to the stegosaurus ones, as they didn't eat meat ?.

Trained TAs on proper contracts, responsible to qualified staff can do a far better job, but parent helpers are free, and with school budgets what they are, Heads are turning back to them.

Aveline Fri 30-Sept-22 11:37:45

There's volunteering and volunteering. Not all voluntary activities are replaceable by paid workers. It's a massive subject.

Urmstongran Fri 30-Sept-22 11:29:04

*direct
*heart

Duh!

Urmstongran Fri 30-Sept-22 11:28:08

When I was working I was on school PTA’s, typing up the minutes and fundraising at events for years. Himself did voluntary work as a sports coach.

Nowadays we enjoy our leisure time, are lucky to have plenty of friends and a good social life. Plus our lifestyle choice - living half a year here and half in Málaga - means it’s not conducive to commitments.

So I give in other ways. Once I got my state pension I seriously increased my debit debit amounts to the 3 charities dear to my heat.

Witzend Fri 30-Sept-22 11:19:21

I used to do frequent stints with a local org. that provided lifts for people who couldn’t use public transport or afford taxis - for Gp or hospital appts. etc. Once a month I also manned (personned?) the phone, taking the many requests and trying to find drivers - usually ended up doing most of them myself though.

There were some obvious p*ss takers, people in obviously new and expensive clothes, who looked on us as a free taxi service and would remark in passing on how they regularly ate at such and such a restaurant etc.

Most were genuine though, and it was usually those who appeared the poorest who’d try to give me a pound for my petrol.

I don’t do anything any more, though - dd has to go away for work fairly often, sometimes at short notice, when I’m needed to help with Gdcs 60 miles away, so can’t make any regular commitment.

Callistemon21 Fri 30-Sept-22 11:18:55

Is Volunteering a moral duty to "give something back?

Thinking about the OP and then JaneJudge's post:

No, volunteering should not be a moral duty and what are we meant to be giving back after a working lifetime of duty?

The government has a moral duty to provide services to those who need it but they all fail in some areas, some more so than others.
It is no-one's duty to fill the gaps where government fails.

However, some people may miss the structure, the comradeship of a career, feel they have more to offer by volunteering and that can only be a good thing for society.

Others may feel that, after a life of work and duty, they would like to spend retirement pursuing hobbies etc and that is fine too.

Those who do not actively volunteer may be helping in other ways, it doesn't mean they don't have a social conscience. They may donate to food banks even if they don't volunteer in one, give to the RNLI even if they don't go out to sea, donate to a local hospice or other charities.

Just quietly doing what they feel is their 'bit'.

25Avalon Fri 30-Sept-22 11:09:56

Volunteers are required of all ages. When my kids were in school I helped with cooking, reading, computers etc on a voluntary rota basis. I made cakes for fetes and helped fund raise for a new play school. Now dd is doing the same and she has a busy job. BUT it is always the same handful of volunteers every time doing everything.
Now I am still helping with the football club as I have done for the past 30 years and I would love to hand it over, if only someone would come forward. Why should retirees have a moral duty anymore than anyone else especially if they have done their bit in the past?

Callistemon21 Fri 30-Sept-22 11:03:33

JaneJudge

I'm uncomfortable with the idea that some volunteering is taking what should be paid jobs off people.

Just to throw the cat amongst the pigeons.

As local services have been cut, some charities that rely on volunteers have had to make up the short fall and sometimes it often isn't appropriate.

Yes, should we be relying on volunteers and charities to provide what should be state-run services?

I know the government funds some charities to a certain extent but is that right anyway? Give some money and ignore the problems, hoping kind hearted people will fill the gaps in services?

GagaJo Fri 30-Sept-22 10:54:39

Hmmm.

Zero hours contracts.

Impossibility for large swathes of the population to buy a home due to prices.

No/very very limited social housing available (thanks to selling it off).

I bought my first home at 20, based on one wage.

My parents were loaned the money (wasn't much) to buy their house by their parents. No mortgage. That house is now worth millions. House prices, proportionally, are hugely higher than they were for us.

Things are much harder now. Millenials & Generation Z know it. Us denying it helps no one and just adds to the impression that boomers are selfish and don't care.

JaneJudge Fri 30-Sept-22 10:53:10

I'm uncomfortable with the idea that some volunteering is taking what should be paid jobs off people.

Just to throw the cat amongst the pigeons.

As local services have been cut, some charities that rely on volunteers have had to make up the short fall and sometimes it often isn't appropriate.

Callistemon21 Fri 30-Sept-22 10:46:52

GagaJo

Casdon

I’ve read the Mumsnet thread, there’s one controversial post near the beginning, which lots of posters requoted saying they disagreed. The vast majority said they didn’t think volunteering could or should be compulsory, and were supportive of retirees making their own choices. I’m not sure who the ‘they’ you’re referring to is GagaJo, but there was little evidence of resentment on the Mumsnet thread.

Clearly those referenced in the quote from Callistemon.

I’m not sure who the ‘they’ you’re referring to is GagaJo

I was quoting Gagajo's description of them as:

^This is a terrible time to be 30/40^

And I responded:
It wasn't so brilliant when I was 30 to 40 either!

It is impossible to generalise and say that this is a terrible time right now for everyone who is 30/40.
It may be for some but it is not for all of that age group.
Just as it was 30 - 40 years ago.

Recollections may vary.

MerylStreep Fri 30-Sept-22 07:43:36

AmberSpyGlass
I think the recipient of the phone call just didn’t want to talk to an outrageous snob anymore ?

Gymstagran Fri 30-Sept-22 07:25:32

In my opinion volunteering should be just that. I was leader of a charity support group for 15 years. Over those years the situation and expectations changed. I began to get irritated by the amount of time I was allocating to the "volunteering" to the detriment of my social/family life. Equally I thought that the volunteers were increasingly becoming unpaid staff. Recognising that I had stopped enjoying what I did and on moving house I ceased volunteering. I miss the people but not the role.

cornergran Fri 30-Sept-22 07:18:26

In my view there are too many variables to generalise. Health, mobility, transport, the availability of something interesting to name a few. As a former volunteer coordinator for a national charity I’d not want anyone to feel pressurised to volunteer or to feel less valuable as a person if their choice was not to.

We can all offer something to a community by being aware of the needs of others whether family, friends or neighbours and helping where we can in whatever way we can. It doesn’t have to be a formal arrangement through an organisation.

Aveline Fri 30-Sept-22 06:55:27

Where I volunteer there are three other people of my age who have stuck with it week in week out. However, we have an ever changing variety of younger people who come for a short while then disappear. They have to put volunteering in job/course applications so it looks good volunteering in a hospital but they have no intention or interest in staying beyond that. It's very annoying. They're only doing it to make them look good.

Ashcombe Fri 30-Sept-22 05:55:28

Throughout my full time working life, I served on various committees, governing bodies and PTA’s. In retirement, I’ve gradually reduced those commitments and now mainly volunteer for my local theatre, being on the management committee as membership secretary, besides helping backstage or on front of house. Occasionally, I enjoy minor rôles on stage.

All this satisfies my need to socialise besides enabling me to be involved with performing arts, a lifelong passion. I couldn’t be fulfilled at home full time but I accept we are all different in our approach to retirement.

Delorus Fri 30-Sept-22 05:01:05

I admire all those who make the commitment to do voluntary work ànd if I could find a role with flexibility would happily offer my services.
But being the Tweenies ( age 70) we provide childcare for the DGCs and arrange social,medical and general well being for family members 10_15yrs older.I feel I more than contribute to the welfare of others.A friend once asked why I did it was it because I loved to feel needy.I just think of it as payback for all the support they have given over the many years.

Ladyripple Fri 30-Sept-22 01:06:23

Of course it is not a “moral” duty to do voluntary work!

I worked hard,paid a high rate of tax,helped out a lot at all the schools my children attended and sat on numerous committees over the years.

Retirement is my time,I belong to the WI and our group does do a lot in the village,we are always serving tea and cake at events.I go to other groups and I swim daily.

That is enough for me at 74.

Redhead56 Fri 30-Sept-22 01:01:43

I volunteered in various ways in my community even while working full time when I was young. As parents my friends and I did everything for PTA working hard organising events catering etc to earn extra money for the school.
I have volunteered with the local park rangers etc but I never considered it a moral duty. I did it because I wanted to it was rewarding. I was recently asked to help with a local club I might consider it I have not decided yet.
As I get older it annoys me how some do not contribute anything to the community. They just sit back and reap the benefits of others hard work they are the people who have a moral duty to do something.