Fed up with colleagues

I'm not sure I understand the problem. Why would he be interested in you 'as a person', and what makes you think he hired you to please the women you think is his mistress?

I don't know what advice you are looking for, really.

Well I wish he would keep his personal life at home.

Just do your job.

Smile and take the money 🙂

orchid25

Well I wish he would keep his personal life at home.

There's not much anyone on here can advise you about there, though .

You suspect that he's having an affair because of some circumstantial evidence, and are hurt that you think that means that he doesn't care about you as a person? I'm still unclear as to what that actually means, and why it matters. He is your boss, so you are there to work with him, and his PA has her own role which may or may not involve you. I would leave it at that and, as Callistemon says, smile and take the money.

Keep out of it, do your job and take the money.
It is absolutely none of your business.

Have you previously only ever worked in a Nunnery orchid25 ? What you describe is more or less what has happened in every place I have worked. Basically if you want to continue working there, be professional and basically mind your own business. If that isn't acceptable to you, resign. Simples.

if you don't like it leave! I wonder if it's even true!

I am being professional. And I am not naive. I know it happens in most places because that's where you spend the most time together. I'm not juggling two partners in the workplace and putting colleagues (like me) in an awkward situation. Particularly when his 'official' partner seems oblivious to what's going on. If you want to meet for anything...take it off the premises and get my manager to focus on his JOB.

This sounds like the kinds of toxic office politics I always worked hard to avoid. Other posters have given you good advice. Concentrate on your own job to the best of your ability. When you have to collaborate with workmates do so in a professional (ie detached) manner and dont get drawn into their mind games. Be polite and civil but keep your own counsel.And when you leave the office physically leave it mentally.

Yes- smile and collect your pay. It is none of your business and I would definitely keep it that way.

Smile and take the money.
As you said in your OP, it’s not your business what your boss does. He doesn’t have to be interested in you as a person, only in whether you do your job properly.

As you said in your OP, your ego has been hurt.

I’m not sure but perhaps thought that he was interested in you (as a person) and are now disappointed?

Just let them got on with it and concentrate on the work, they are business colleagues not friends.

Thank you. I just hope he doesn't keep bringing his wife into work as I actually feel sorry for her, and feel that I am putting on an act in front of her.

You sound very young and immature.
Maybe try MN where you might get more sympathy as apposed to us who have been round the block a few times and therefore know how it works in the workplace. Ie, your there to do a job.

If you want to keep the job, keep schtum.
If you’re not bothered then look for another job. I hear there are many job vacancies these days.
Office politics are always difficult to dance around but you learn to do it.

Whilst I'm not here for tea and sympathy, I do think your reply is rude and patronising, Meryl Streep - there's no need to get personal when I AM DOING MY JOB by keeping my private life off site.

MawtheMerrier

Keep out of it, do your job and take the money.
It is absolutely none of your business.

This.

You have no evidence that there is an affair going on.

In a SME, my management style would be to have had the CEO welcome you to the organisation at some point in your first week - generally a very brief introduction as part of an induction. In a large organisation that would be unlikely. But different organisations have different approaches.

Or, of course, if the manager concerned was in the same workspace as me, (and there was no intro shown in my induction/there wasn’t a formal induction) I’d have popped over to his desk the first morning to say ‘hallo, just wanted to say how much I’m looking forward to working here’ or some such. I wouldn’t then expect regular engagement unless there was a business reason for it.

There is no reason to continue working in an organisation that doesn’t suit you for any reason, including management style. Are you actively looking for a new job? There is a plethora of experience here, so can we help you with that?

I don’t understand why you think they’re having an affair?

Awaiting episode 2
😀

Are you jealous ?

crazyH

Are you jealous ?

sounds the most likely scenario