Me too tickingbird I think it all sounds hilarious 
So…..what are we all up to on this beautiful sunny bank holiday? ☀️
A terrible crime unpunished!! Imho 🙄
Hi, my two coworkers are having an extra marital affair. I get on better with the lady than the man. This month, the signs between them both were very obvious. He works in another department. I do not care what they do off site, but the pair are constantly texting each other. My female colleague has a pair of sunglasses (which were the exact distinctive pair he was wearing on a company facebook page). She also asks our boss for breaks 'into town'. Last night he stayed longer than his hours (he leaves at 4, and left just after 5). She wears denim and leather jackets to work and he also kits himself out. He doesn't respond to my business calls as his office is locked with a code pad. Yesterday he was sitting in there ignoring the fact that I was dealing with four clients (two of which were looking for him). Another male coworker confronted him saying 'why are you standing like that?' as he had his arm guarding the door. He comes out of his office looking at his phone - while she's texting. She is constantly scrolling and texting at work on the desk, and I saw him checking her out. She talks about her husband, and whilst it is not my business, our conversation about him was very fake. I find him disrespectful on a personal level as he never starts conversation, frequently turns his back or avoids eye contact. I am a deputy manager at a firm but I don't want to tell my boss what I suspect. She knew I was upset (I've also got family issues including my mother-in-law who's dying of cancer in scotland, my mother who's got bladder cancer, a husband with painful gout, and a father-in-law and have also recovered from pneumonia. Yet she is trying to get my feelings out of me. I temp so I am in a vulnerable position. Any advice would be grateful.
Me too tickingbird I think it all sounds hilarious 
I'm too busy working to enjoy the spectacle of it all. I'm there to work and earn money, not act as the go-between for their less-than-secret affair.
The fact they are having an affair is their concern, as is what they wear. However, if they're not pulling their weight because of it that affects everyone. If you want to complain that's what your complaint should be about, not their affair. Otherwise, you can just sit back and wait for the fireworks when it all falls apart. You might find they resolve the situation anyway by leaving or being fired.
I should say that I saw two jobs advertised with the same title as his on our government webpage a couple of weeks back. He's on secondment from another place (which makes me wonder why).
I think you should mind your business but if it bothers you that much, look for another job.
Office romances and affairs are as old as the hills.
What colleagues wear to work is between them and the boss and the dress code if there is one and unless you are in charge of HR should not concern you. The sunglasses on Facebook sound quite irrelevant too - are you sure you are not taking too close an interest.
You sound as if you are going through a particularly distressing time, emotionally but you need to distance yourself from this.
It just irritates me how blatant they are, but most importantly how they are not engaging with me as a coworker.
You are there to do a job. How do you want them to engage with you? You seem rather obsessed with them and what you believe is going on between them - even to the point of talking about their jackets and sunglasses.
And me, tickingbird. I'd find it all fascinating. In fact it happened somewhere I worked (also as a temp). I had a fairly long-term contract and one of the women I worked for was having an affair and used to be either in floods of tears or on a high every day as her lover was either going to leave his wife or he wasn't. When I left the job I always wondered how it all ended up.
Excuse me - I AM there to do a job. They are there to spend hours texting on their mobile which is not engaging face to face with the public. Engage: talk as coworkers, pick up the goddam work phone and attend to clients. Not look at bloody twitter and arrange hookups in paid company time.
Sounds familiar Skydancer - she either has an angry face on and has glared at him on occasions or gone all coy and giggly. Most affairs fizzle out anyway.
Are you jealous maybe?? {wink}
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You are a temp. Presumably they are permanent members of staff. If your position entitles you to tell them to get on with their work, do so. If not, just get on with your work or find another job. I hope you aren’t posting all this during your working day!
I’ve worked in offices where there were extra marital affairs occurring but if I had ever walked into a room where two of them were going at it over a desk I’d be in hysterics (of mirth); it would make my day 
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Another deletion I’ve missed - so annoying. You ladies are quick on the draw.
I am off today. I may be a 'temp' but I am in the management team (and I job share with her) so yes - I do have something to say about it. Because if a customer comes in and sees inappropriate behaviour they can lodge a complaint.
Well if they lodge a complaint, presumably somebody will look into it.
He's a stupid man because he's got a picture with those shades on - which are a carbon copy of the ones on her desk. She frequently checks herself out in the mirror with makeup
Hardly hanging offences!
In the meantime it seems to be taking up too much of your time and attention.
I reported your deleted post OP - it was unnecessary and unpleasant.
Orchid25 I feel for you.
I worked in a product plant with a couple “carrying on” and it was a nightmare!
She was our group leader, a team of 7or 8 and he was a known bully. He’d been part of a gang bullying a young boy but he ratted on the others and was the only one to keep his job.
When the post of deputy was created she appointed him and the two of them would “have to liaise” in the equipment bay behind the machines. This involved the removal of clothing and left her flustered. And me , left to keep his machines running or I was disciplined for not reaching my/our target.
They eventually got their comeupance but or bullying. He left, but he knew where I lived because she told him.
It took me years to get over it.
orchid25
Thank you Welbeck, I will take that advice. I just dread seeing both of them when I go into work.
Sounds like an extremely unpleasant situation. I'd keep well out of it and ignore their goings on unless it impacts on your work. If it does then it would be reasonable to talk to them both about their behaviour at work. There is the possibility they are both in an open marriage,or they could be swingers. A lifestyle I can't comprehend but it undeniably happens so best to stay out of it and try to ignore it.
I am a deputy manager at a firm but I don't want to tell my boss what I suspect
Why not - you seem to delight in telling everybody here every last —irrelevant— detail.
You also say you are a temp and deputy manager of a library.
Is that a public library?
From your rubbishing of the male colleague you make it clear you have no time for him, so is it any wonder he does not engage with you?
All I am hearing is drip, drip criticism of a colleague- you clearly do not like him or his lady friend, I would seriously suggest examining your motives.
If a person doesn't do their job but uses it for socials then that's not fair. It isn't just me who's noticed his behaviour (this includes a lot of male clients who complain to the team on the desk about not gaining access). One male contractor in his own words said 'he's always hiding!' I didn't respond to that btw. For the most part, the team including me can assist with his department and do that without any problem. But it's not fair to not give us a heads up who's in to assist local residents who have leaks, floods and electrical disasters as we don't have that expertise. If his department wasn't tied up with ours I wouldn't have an opinion about his activities.
This is another progressive post... dah dah
Ah I missed the deleted post. Am assuming it was in reply to my post. Shame 
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