Colleagues affair

To me it does sound as if you have grounds to feel aggrieved. But you made the mistake of tying it to their affair. I'm not sure if your disapproval of their affair is colouring your attitude to their work, or if the problems they are causing the department have accentuated your disapproval of their affair.

It is annoying when people don't pull their weight - usually the load falls on other people. And it is annoying trying to work with someone who is supposed to work with you but doesn't communicate - been there, done that.

But you seem to have three choices:
- out them for their bad work practices, but you'd better have plenty of evidence and be prepared to leave if things go wrong
- leave and look for another job or
- learn to ignore what they are doing, do your job as best you can and wait for things to change for one reason or another.

You weren’t named. The nasty comment could have applied to any divorced poster, of whom you may well not be one.

That was in response to Jewelle.

orchid25

If a person doesn't do their job but uses it for socials then that's not fair. It isn't just me who's noticed his behaviour (this includes a lot of male clients who complain to the team on the desk about not gaining access). One male contractor in his own words said 'he's always hiding!' I didn't respond to that btw. For the most part, the team including me can assist with his department and do that without any problem. But it's not fair to not give us a heads up who's in to assist local residents who have leaks, floods and electrical disasters as we don't have that expertise. If his department wasn't tied up with ours I wouldn't have an opinion about his activities.

I thought you worked in a library

I thought so too, RosiesMaw. Strange set up. Perhaps offices are shared?🤷‍♀️

All strange

Well you certainly have a lot of time on your hands considering the time you have spent composing these rubbish posts 🤦🏼‍♀️

orchid25

The dilemma I have is should I grin and bare it? I am not going to talk about my suspicions. I realise that I have to be smart about this and only highlight how it impacts on me (and more importantly our clients). I just don't know if I can resist saying to him 'sure you haven't left your shades in the manager's office?' But I am better than that and need to focus on what's important.

I really wouldn't bare anything, if I were you! 😯

There are enough shenanigans going on in your place of work without adding more to it.

I really wouldn't bare anything, if I were you! 😯

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I have decided to focus on MY job, and let others 'get on with it'.
Petra - if my posts are rubbish feel free to NOT read my rubbish posts! Came here for advice, that's all! Despite my thoughts, I want to work in peace and to pick up my pay cheque. Thanks to all for your comments.

If you are having to deal with contractors who want to get hold of him, why not keep a note of their details, send him an email at the end of the day, telling him who's been in touch and send a cc to the manager/director - who ever's in charge.

AreWeThereYet

^I really wouldn't bare anything, if I were you! 😯^

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I thought that was the problem!

A librarian who doesn’t know the difference between bear and bare?

As you are a temp and this is causing you stress on top of your family problems - ask for another job .
Wishing you lots of luck .

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Two things
The affair is none of your business.
If you’re unhappy at work , leave , as a temp its easy to move on.

orchid25

For someone who reported me for being 'unpleasant' and 'unnecessary' you are showing yourself up to be a right old cow

Charming!

The pattern we have seen so often?
Story
Elaboration
A few inconsistencies
Refusal to accept the opinions of others
Indignation
Aggression (attack being the best form of defence)
Insults
Here we go again

RosiesMaw

The pattern we have seen so often?
Story
Elaboration
A few inconsistencies
Refusal to accept the opinions of others
Indignation
Aggression (attack being the best form of defence)
Insults
Here we go again

quite...

I temp so I am in a vulnerable position. Any advice would be grateful
I am a deputy manager at a firm but I don't want to tell my boss what I suspect.
No, he's not your boss if you're a temp. You're your own boss.
Ask agency for another job.

RosiesMaw

The pattern we have seen so often?
Story
Elaboration
A few inconsistencies
Refusal to accept the opinions of others
Indignation
Aggression (attack being the best form of defence)
Insults
Here we go again

This

a husband with painful gout
any advice would be grateful

The GP could give him tablets or even a cortisone injection in his big toe joint.
Works a treat!! 🙂

If it affects work I would make sure the bosses knew what was going on, but I would do it discretely, no way am I going to be labeled a whistleblower. The bosses can choose what action to take but if nothing was done I would leave.
Romantic encounters are common in many workplaces, married or not doesn’t seem to matter, women are just as bad as men.

RosiesMaw

The pattern we have seen so often?
Story
Elaboration
A few inconsistencies
Refusal to accept the opinions of others
Indignation
Aggression (attack being the best form of defence)
Insults
Here we go again

Rosies
Are you suggesting that the OP might not be what it at first appears to be 😱

orchid25, you appear to have a lot of personal stuff going on with family illness etc and my suggestion would be to focus on your own job and totally ignore anything that is happening at work between these two people.
What they choose to wear and how long a lunch break they have is none of your concern really, is it?