Leaving job

Your relationship to this colleague must feel like ufinished business and you appear to want it to end smoothly. I agree with posters upthread who have advised you to simply close the door on the relationship. To use a cliche it "is what it is".

Isnt it odd how some men who begin by being "flirty" and get no response eventually turn cold and hostile. They somehow lack the maturity to accept that although you are not interested in them as a date that doesnt mean you have something against them.

When I was a mature student at uni I had a man from an ethnic minority who kept encountering me and asking me out. I always refused, explaining that I did not know him socially and it was not my custom to pick up men in the street. Gradually he became more and more hostile. He accused me of not wanting to go out with him because he was Asian. I was totally involved in my studies and would not have gone out with him had he been white British.

Definitely overthinking...just leave...no requirement to send him any email

I think you’re just overthinking what is just a trivial issue. You aren’t being forced to leave because of this co-worker, so just go and get on with your life.
I’d consider myself lucky if there was only one co-worker I hadn’t seen eye to eye with!

He seems to be strangely important to you...
Is RosiesMaw2 on to something here?

Don't really understand the last message tbh as a happy married woman in a 30 year relationship. So therefore I am not having my cake and eating it...

Having your cake and eating it?
Perhaps his “flirty manner “ was more acceptable than blanking you in front of colleagues?
Hell hath no fury ……..etcetc?
Let it go.

The day you leave, go over to him and say very loudly, I’ve come to say goodbye. I’ve really enjoyed this job and my colleagues, I’d like to say it’s been a pleasure knowing you, but it hasn’t been. Big smile

You say you’re leaving, so why the worry about what this colleague thinks, does or doesn’t do? He will not feature in your life at all soon, so don’t stress over him.

Blimey!

How odd! You are leaving so why does it matter. I could understand asking for advice on working with such a person, but he is now irrelevant to your life. Forget him and carry on with your future.

He doesn't deserve your concern. I hope life is as kind as possible to you as it sounds like you have a lot to deal with at the moment

Why bother concerning yourself with him? The other staff are professional and friendly so say your farewells to them and move on. Forget him.

As others have said- why is this an issue? You can't get on with all your colleagues.

I wonder if he's been annoyed all along because you didn't respond to his flirting?
Maybe he's not used to people who don't find him irresistible?
Silly man 😁

Stop worrying, he is irrelevant to your life.

Why do you care what a “work colleague thinks?” You will soon be away from there and he will be irrelevant.

The only way to deal with indifference is to ignore it.
He’s not important, he has no role in your future life and he won’t care if he doesn’t get an email from you.
You obviously have enough on your plate already, so let it go and focus on what really matters.
Hope you feel better soon.

In the nicest possible way

Stop caring what he thinks