Unpleasant employee stressing me out

I did wonder that Petra.

I think the issue is that you aren't a salaried employee, are "family" and you are picking your own hours.

It's very awkward when someone appears to swan in when it suits them.

I know another business (personally) where a family member "helps out". The lack of formality in the arrangement is rather irritating to some staff.

The wife or husband or daughter or son of the proprietor is also in a difficult position if they are just helping things tick along. Would it help to do (say) Monday Wednesday Friday full time?

Is your son formally an employee?
Is he doing a job that he would be employed doing elsewhere?

In your position I would do all the admin at home online.
If this is something you don’t want to do there are companies that will.

If this staff member's upsetting other employees and your H is unable or unwilling to act, then you'll have too. I don't wish to appear insensitive but there's no way I'd allow a member of staff to treat my son badly.

I've been there valdavi, we ran our own small business before retirement and if you don't do something about this now, it will only escalate.

S/he needs a verbal warning which will go on her/his employment record.

It’s easier said than done to sort this sort of thing out
We have about 15 full and part time staff, I really like most of them, but two I know are trouble, I’m extremely careful what I say to them, and very careful what I say in their hearing, you can’t just get rid of people if they haven’t actually done anything wrong, but it’s a very uncomfortable situation.

His impoliteness is one thing, but is he an honest person? I mean can you trust him? He may be impolite but also honest, which is most important.

I get it that he is annoying. But is it possible that some of his criticisms are correct and worth attending to?

My husband has many qualities regarding running his business, he's excellent at the work himself & he puts in all the hours GS.

But DH can be intimidated by people who work for him communication's not his forte. He didnt have a good upbringing. He's much better at customer service.He wouldn't challenge him although he did say he wishes the employee was gone.

Employee is definitely upsetting other staff, they have said so, but his main focus is me & our son. I would be upset if the employee left because we're so busy as it is & DH although usually a good judge of people, can't see the problem. We do have CCTV so maybe the next step is to see if it's in the office & show DH exactly what goes down.

Take a deep breath and then tell him you wont stand for it. You are the bosses wife and will not be spoken too/treated in this way and you wont allow any of your staff to be treated this way either.

Or, tell your H so he can deal with it but if he wont, deal with it yourself. Regardless of how much of an asset your H thinks he is, surely he wont allow this to continue.

GrannySomerset

You do know the answer, it’s just too hard to contemplate. I would challenge patronising comments and make it clear that you won’t allow it. If he’s upsetting you, he may be upsetting other staff and that could be a serious problem.

Yes, I agree. I think you do need to challenge him, but also have a word with your husband and set it out straight to him too.

You do know the answer, it’s just too hard to contemplate. I would challenge patronising comments and make it clear that you won’t allow it. If he’s upsetting you, he may be upsetting other staff and that could be a serious problem.

Would your dh have a word with this person? Something along the lines of - if you have a problem with valdavi's work, speak to me about it. It's not your role to manage her.

Have you told your husband how you feel? I presume he is this employee's manager.