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Dastardly ducknapper!!

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grannyactivist Tue 31-Dec-13 01:08:30

It's not often that I experience intense anger towards people, but I certainly did today! Long story, so maybe you'd like to grab a cuppa (or something stronger) and settle down to my tale.
My (almost four year old) grandson has raised two pet ducks who live in his garden in Devon and have a rather splendid duck house to which they retire every evening in order to prevent foxes from enjoying them for dinner. The garden (once part of a farm) is large and secure and is bordered by a rather posh modern housing estate. On Christmas day my daughter and her family went out to lunch and returned in the evening to find that the ducks had gone missing - the stormy weather had caused a small 'escape hole' to appear and the ducks had apparently wandered off. Not too alarmed, as they are usually ready to 'roost' at the same time each evening my daughter and her husband searched the nearby estate calling for them; hoping that the 'girls' as they are affectionately known would find their way home (as they did on a previous occasion). Sadly this time the girls didn't reappear and the whole family were distraught and since then have contacted anyone and everyone who might have news, but to no avail.
Today in a last ditch effort to find their pets they systematically began knocking on nearby doors and asking the householders if they had seen the ducks. A close neighbour answered the query with a definite 'No' only to be contradicted by her little boy who had heard the question; he reminded her that they had seen the ducks and as she tried to say again that she hadn't seen or heard the ducks he became insistent (in the sort of puzzled way of small children when they hear a blatant lie think that mummy must have forgotten confused ) that they had seen the ducks - it was obvious that he was contradicting what his mother was saying and that she was trying to silence him when the woman's husband came to the door and admitted reluctantly that his sister, who was visiting for Christmas, had found the ducks wandering and so had taken them home with her - wait for it........to Cambridge!!!! And what's more if they wanted their pets back they'd have to go and get them!
So that's what they've done. This afternoon they drove from Devon to a village in Cambridge to get their son's beloved pets back, at a cost of £80 in fuel and a ten hour return journey! The woman in question was blatantly unashamed that she had effectively stolen someone's family pets and had made no effort to trace their owner or even report them found. (That they were pets, rather than wild ducks was never in question.)
So, I feel quite incensed that
a) she took my grandson's pets in the first place b) when asked if she would drive part way to meet my daughter and return them she refused, and c) that she was quite unrepentant.
The only nice outcome is that I was due to look after my two little grandsons for a few days from this evening, whilst my daughter and her husband have a few days break, and instead I got to have the little one (ten months) for the whole afternoon today as well whilst his parents chased off to Cambridge and big brother was attending his first pantomime. (Looking for the silver cloud smile )

LizG Wed 01-Jan-14 15:26:53

You are good with words ga so Perhaps a little, tongue in cheek, write up in the local press thanking everyone who helped in the search and explaining the long trip to Cambridge. There is no way the ducks could have been taken in good faith because why would the neighbour attempt to deny all knowledge if that had been the case?

I am very relieved the ducks have been returned rather than put in the pot which was how I thought your story would end

FlicketyB Wed 01-Jan-14 14:58:08

Absolutely agree with MiceElf. It was theft. I would have contacted the police if the family member of your neighbour had not driven back to your house from Cambridge to return the ducks pdq.

I would have also made it clear that I would also go to the police if the ducks were not alive and in good health when returned.

Deedaa Tue 31-Dec-13 22:03:13

What awful people! My daughter who is 39 has never got over having her pet duckling eaten by a fox when she was about 6. I can't imagine what she would have done if someone had deliberately stolen it.
The little boy who refused to shut up sounds like my GS smile

Agus Tue 31-Dec-13 18:57:14

Or, may make the parents think twice before involving their innocent children!

Bez Tue 31-Dec-13 18:56:20

I can hardly believe that anyone would do that and take the ducks so far away - I was going to ask the question as to the quacking but GA you answered it. The behaviour of neither branch of the family was good.- glad they are safely back home.

granjura Tue 31-Dec-13 18:14:45

Must say I don't really favour that option. The family has young children- who were clearly not responsible, so do we really want them to be bullied and shunned? What does it solve?

I suppose little one already has been really told off for telling the truth, poor thing.

granjura Tue 31-Dec-13 18:13:48

Must say I don't really favour that option. The family has young children- who were clearly not responsible, so do we really want them to be bullied and shunned? What does it solve?

Agus Tue 31-Dec-13 18:11:07

The fact that she made no attempt to find the owner of the ducks! Is she frightened of her husband/SIL or of the school - not my problem! What a despicable bunch.

My tack now would be to inform as many neighbours as possible with "you won't believe what I!m going to tell you" and seriously bad mouth this lot with the whole episode of theft, having to retrieve them and the attitude you had to deal with into the bargain!

We know there are people like this out there but it still shocks us when they surface.

NfkDumpling Tue 31-Dec-13 17:54:07

Restrained? I think positively saintly to have gone back. I'd have graffiti'd their walls! To take the cat / ducks in in good faith and ignorance is one thing. To then lie to keep them, especially when a child's heart is breaking - unforgivable.

granjura Tue 31-Dec-13 17:24:19

It's the lying and deceit I can'a abide- and by then we were all very stressed- with a little girl who had not slept for nights. I think I was very restrained actually- and as said, even offered to find them another cat to adopt (:

tiggypiro Tue 31-Dec-13 16:31:16

Reminds me of people who take lambs from the moors because they think they have been abandoned.
So glad the ducks returned home safely.

granjura Tue 31-Dec-13 15:04:09

In which case, I totally agree. Thanks for clarifying ... and happy ducks...

JessM Tue 31-Dec-13 15:02:58

Duck wars. Kitten wars. Goodness me. Wouldn't want to mess with you granjura grin
Thought the end of the story was going involve orange, so I guess that the ducks were reclaimed is quite surprising. Noticed that the geese that live on the river bank opposite my sister were not allowed out in the days just before xmas and reappeared on xmas day.
My DS once had ducks and some chickens in the garden. The whole lot were swiped one night. We suspected a resentful neighbour (long back story) - must have been someone who knew they were there, and we were not living somewhere where there were many passing pedestrians.
My 14 yr old friend has just had a sad loss - Henry the guinea pig. Her parents must have spent many hundreds of pounds on vets' bills during the course of his life. They thought they were getting a cheap pet. grin

grannyactivist Tue 31-Dec-13 14:45:24

One of the ducks is a runner duck and the pair are completely tame, obviously pets, and the house where they were initially taken is within close 'quacking' distance - so I would be more than a little surprised if the neighbours didn't have an idea that they were the ducks from the garden across the road.
We are pleased that they were taken in and didn't become a fox's dinner, but really shocked that no efforts at all were made to locate the owners - a single call to the police or RSPCA would have done the job as they were reported missing very quickly. There is a local animal shelter that would have taken them, but according to the neighbour his sister had wanted them as pets herself.
Anyway, today I'm just delighted that they're home and seeing my grandson so happy at the news was wonderful. smile

granjura Tue 31-Dec-13 14:24:29

Well yes- but they may genuinely have believed the ducks had been abandonned (as happens with 10000s of pets at this time of year in particular) and were at risk- and genuinely wanted to give the poor things a home.

harrigran Tue 31-Dec-13 13:05:43

Stealing by finding is still theft. May they never rid the car of duck poo smell.

granjura Tue 31-Dec-13 12:13:26

Agreed Iam64- but very sadly people abandon pets all the time- ducks included, for so many reasons (as said above they are very messy as adults)- this is why animal refuges are all full to the brim.

So I am prepared to give them the benefit of the doubt about good first intentions.

We lost our beloved Thomas when he was about 1 year old. He had a collar on with our name and address and detail. We searched high and low- asked everyone to keep a look out, put notices everywhere with photos, and how distressed our little girl was, etc, etc. 2 weeks later at a coffee morning, one womand I'd never met said the elderly couple across the road (about 3 streets down from us) had recently got a new young black cat ... I went and knocked at the door- and first of all she totally denied they had a new cat. I politely explained what had happened and gave a description, and told her her neighbour said they had a new cat. She said that yes, actually they did- but it wasn't at all as I described. I asked to look at him and she refused. Then I clocked Thomas's collar on the dresser at the side- I barged in and picked up the collar and asked where he was. She said I could not see it- by then I was not going to take no for an answer- and there he was, lying on the sofa, and very pleased to see me. I picked him up and went. The next day I went to see them and apologised for being brisk- and offered to find them a new kitten asap to help them out. Oh no, she said, we only want a black one with a white patch on the front, and your cat was perfect. I turned round and said that if they were racist, I couldn't help, and banged the door on my way out. Little old people, and butter would not melt. Thomas lived to 19 and was the best cat ever (from a litter of kittens born to ferral cat in the heating ducts of the South Staffs hospital).

TriciaF Tue 31-Dec-13 11:46:27

From what I know about ducks, they're very messy creatures (lots of poo) so I dread to think what state their car would be in. We used to keep ducks.
Hoping your family get them back though - they're very entertaining as pets too.

Iam64 Tue 31-Dec-13 10:43:02

granjura, my thoughts are that if these people easily caught the ducks, that should have been some indication they were pets. As for the lying neighbour, that is a shocker

glammanana Tue 31-Dec-13 10:23:29

What rotten neighbours !! surely they would have had some idea that the ducks where from nearby ? and the little boy : how true of the saying "out of the mouthes of babes" I'm so glad your little man is getting his pets back home to roost GA and that he enjoys his panto.

Grannyknot Tue 31-Dec-13 10:18:40

ga how could that woman lie so blatantly! And if the little boy hadn't blown her cover, you would have been none the wiser, and at that point that she knew, she was in effect covering up a theft. And it begs the question, why did she feel the need to conceal that the ducks had been taken? Makes me think they knew they were taking a chance by snatching them. Like you, I'd be hopping mad.

Anne58 Tue 31-Dec-13 10:18:20

So glad it ended well, but must agree with many of the comments above!

granjura Tue 31-Dec-13 10:08:10

If the ducks looked lost and distressed, and the weather bad- and no-one in the Devon family and circle of friends could adopt them- then I feel it was lovely for that person to take them back to their home, if they knew they could look after them well there. If they truly felt that would save their lives.

However, it was so so WRONG to lie, for so many reasons (including the example to the child)- and the person in CAmbridge should have apologised profusely and done everything possible to meet half-way! Beggars belief- but at least the ducks are safe and back home - so a happy ending.

Soutra Tue 31-Dec-13 09:10:19

Do some people have no shame? I would publicise it in both areas, local radio and TV too. Yes it is theft. Would they have been so cavalier if it had been a puppy? To inflict that sort of grief especially on a child is despicable. angry

annodomini Tue 31-Dec-13 08:44:45

The neighbour was setting her child a shocking example.