Stansgran Evil spirit, poisonous, loathsome, and is a user? That is harsh. He is a 17 year old lad with issues about certain things including his father leaving him on the doorstep at 8 years old. There are lots of different things which have gone on in our family, most of which would make your hair curl and which I am not willing to put on here, but which my son now knows about, being older. He is a very sensitive person and I do think that people who take things more to heart have trouble with their minds and in keeping thoughts about what has happened at bay.
I have sorted out some counselling for him. He has said that he will be open and honest to whoever he is taking the counselling from, as he did do some but tried to hide most of what he was feeling but now realises that it has only come back to haunt him again. Hopefully that, and a thorough check up at the doctors to check for anything medically wrong will help to set him back on his way to good health.
I am not making excuses for him as what we both did was wrong. But like he says, we have been through some sh*t together and I am not willing to throw him out onto the street and make him homeless as this is the option for under 18 years olds and he isn't 18 yet. I want to set him up with a good life, to go to university and get the degree he wants and the job he is looking forward to doing, not destroy him because of one mistake. We have all made mistakes.
I am also going to sort out some family counselling for us both so that I can also learn from last weekend. It is no use just pinning the blame on him, I was at fault too. If I had not hit him, he would not have retaliated. It is time to take stock of us both being different people to a few years ago.
Coolgran What do you mean, the person who gave him a talking to was your husband? Or have I read it wrong????
Thank you to everyone who has posted on this, it has been a difficult weekend and my head has hurt with thinking since. Plus my heart is bruised with feeling awful about it all. But thanks, I really would be lost without you. X