Food shopping with DH

Thank you ladies for your good wishes - I am getting better and my eyes are now back to a near normal colour. I have organised a lady to come and give me a hand in the house next week - not yet bad but I could do with someone to dust the bedroom floors etc.Oh has been good hanging out the washing etc - I think he had a dreadful shock. I must say though that the medical services were wonderful and everyone was very kind and thoughtful.
I have had a good poke about in the freezer this morning and we will need to do a shop soon - I wonder if I will allowed to push the trolley at all on my own! Have a lovely Sunday afternoon.

Best wishes Bez - that must have been very frghtening for you and I hope you are on the mend.
Strange system of apportioning the shopping, tcherry - I know the thread is entitled "Food Shopping" but I take it to mean supermarket shopping in general, If youy divvy up the your budget into "his" food and " her" food" who is responsible for the dishwasher tabs, the loo paper, the laundry detergent, the dog food, the tea and coffee, the bread, the butter and jam, cooking oil, sapt and pepper, the furniture polish, the pedal bin bags etc?
I can do a shop which actually contains remarkably little food as such but still mounts up to a tidy sum.

jane10 that sure is a strange combination.

hope all is well with youBez

Bez- scary stuff. Fingers crossed you`re back to normal soon. Tcherry- good plan. We have one evening a week where we each do our own catering. Its a constant amazement to me what he chooses to make for himself. The worst being one of his favourites- a chicken jalfrezi with mashed turnips or cabbage as a vegetable all washed down with a bottle of red. Yuk. He`s best avoided the next day shall I say....................

Bez, what a shock for you. I'm glad they found your brain undamaged and hope they get to the bottom of the problem very soon.

bez, that must have been really scarey, I hope it soon gets sorted out soon.

I had to stop going shopping with my husband because he would just want to buy goddies and lots of them and he was never one for trying to put a meal together and it caused arguments, so I started going alone and kept to that the whole time.

What I think works is if for example your shopping budget was £80 for the both of you which is what ours was, then you just split that between you and he buys want he want to eat and you buy what you want to eat, it is very liberating and may or may not work for you.

Bez that must have been scary (went unconscious). Perhaps you just "had a turn" . Jokes aside, get well soon.

We go together most times to do the big shop - and for all the moaning ( which has decreased significantly) I think he quite enjoys it. We usually go late morning and do the lovely veg shop - Grand Frais - and then go and have a very civilised lunch. After which we do the supermarket round - at this stage OH is nicely fed and quite content so happily goes around sometimes finding me to pop his purchases in the trolley - he is now good at remembering to zap them with the scanner too. Then if we need it we go to the freezer shop. - he loves that bit as they have some lovely items. All is now done very amicably. Sometimes I go with a friend and that is good too.
I had a bit of an incident a fortnight ago and went unconscious so was ambulanced into the local hospital - spent two nights in there and even had a go in the brain scanner - fortunately they found an undamaged brain but I am banned from driving at the moment till I have seen a neurosurgeon in a week's time. I am also having to rest a lot - friends have been wonderful in providing assistance but we are now working our way down the freezer - I feel an exciting trip coming on in a couple of weeks!

No! No! No! No! much quicker on my own. The trolley does not get moved away. I don't get the price per tea bag of 5 brands minutely analysed.
Suggestions that I buy ten boxes of this that or the other because they are offer.

I have just seen that Nightowl also has problems with trolleys being moved off it's totally frustrating but I am not alone.

This discussion is reassuring. I thought I was being a cow not wanting to shop with my husband. Jane you describe our situation exactly, excepting, as I'm off tearing around, he comes looking for me to come back to whatever he is deciding on, to consult further. Arghh!

I have it delivered every week on Thursdays from Sainsbury's. I make a list on the fridge pad of things that have run out during the week and if they need to be got like today one of us takes a list - if I let him loose he goes to Morrisons which I hate- too small and crowded and a person could get killed in the car park.

Online shopping, now that's an idea ...I used to get it delivered when I worked but now I am retired I feel like I should make the effort. It's great for Christmas - saves all that awful queuing.

My DH always assumes that he must "drive" the trolley. Drives me nuts. I tend to just go on my own. He likes to shop too but tends to come home with all his favourites- anchovies, stuffed olives etc. Not exactly a terrific contribution to the weeks shop but that's OK by me- he pays for his own personal shop.

I don't have a OH. I shop online and have it delivered. I get my cup of tea, put some music on and shop away, it's bliss.

DH and I mostly go together, he's happy to tag along and comes in useful at the checkout, he unloads the trolley whilst I pack the bags. He's very well behaved, he will follow me round pushing the trolley while I select from the shelves. He never interferes and only occasionally selects something himself.

As I don't have an OH, I have the privilege of doing my own shopping, but I can see quite different trends in my two sons. DS1 makes a list on his smartphone and sticks to it fairly closely. His wife usually stays well away. As he does the cooking, this makes sense. DS2's partner works for one supermarket and usually shops in another! She doesn't take him with her if she can help it, but if he gets off the leash, he snaps up all the bargain buys. Consequently, their utility room is still full of the 'twofer' detergents that were on offer in Waitrose at least three months ago.

Purple

I shop on my own. I hate shopping for anything with anybody, except, occasionally, my daughter. DH knows and anyway has better things to do with his time than trail around behind me while I shop.

We have completely different shopping styles. I keep to my list, based on what I'm planning to cook.
He looks for bargains to buy in bulk. He also has a sweet tooth and goes for chocolate, ice creams, sweet cordials etc which I never buy.
Luckily he usually leaves me to it, but on the odd occasion he does come along we argue a lot. And the bill is twice as big.

Being unable to drive due to a broken finger, I'm having to rely on DH to take me shopping. Oh how I'm longing for the day when I'm told that I can drive myself again. He does let me wander off by myself,while he stands leaning on the trolley at the end of an aisle, and he unloads the trolley and helps pack the bags, even pays,but I just want to do it by myself!!
On the way home today he said to me :I bet you can't wait to go shopping by yourself can you?

I know just what you mean Nightowl. Mr Purple insists on taking the trolley as a kind of walking aid. Then he apparently dons his cloak of invisibility while I stagger around like a contestant in Double or drop in Crackerjack in days of yore. I much prefer going on my own, but lately I have been looking after GS aged 4 and he just loves using the handheld scanner. So it's back to having company again. At least I do have control of the trolley.

I usually leave mine in the car.

I lied - I have taken him once and he questioned my choice of tinned tomatoes as 'these are much cheaper'. Never again!