One Long Moan

Have just got one "should have" that I can't resist - bear with me - you "should have" made them pay for the New Year's Day meal = then their appreciation of you and what you do would have had more impact and the compliments to your cooking/hosting much more acceptable. Just saying ......

Honestly, I don't know how you managed to do all that when you were feeling so poorly. Like everyone else, I did chuckle at your very descriptive account but also felt a bit annoyed on your behalf.

I expect your family has got used to you being the strong, efficient person that you obviously are and don't realise that even you need to be looked after sometimes. I think you need to give yourself a break and stop feeling guilty - imagine feeling guilty when you have paid for everyone's Christmas dinner!

You poor thing. Your post did give me a laugh though, wish I could write with your style!

Since everybody puts on you, why don't you turn it around and go and stay with them for a while, pop in for a cuppa etc.? That way you can have a rest while they do the running around for a change?!

I keep telling my daughter that about her extension when she says 'I'm never having work done again'

I thought Jalima was going to say rhat if you gave a good sit down now you'll be ok to do it again next year!
It's like having a baby, you forget the agony

DH was given a bird feeder for robins for Christmas. He now stands at the kitchen sink telling me over and over there are no robins on it yet. Well, today one actually stood on top of it. That has encouraged him. Sigh.

My lot are all coming baCK today. GS left a couple of presents here so, of course, they have to come here to collect them. Actually, we could have taken them there, and had dinner cooked for us. Oh well, back to the stove.

I thought Jalima was going to say rhat if you gave a good sit down now you'll be ok to do it again next year! Which you will.

As someone else said, you and DH must come first!

I feel for you Granny23, I did not arrange Christmas dinner out and I did not cook at home. I was amused to read on FB that DD had announced that she had cooked her first Christmas dinner in thirty years, I hasten to add it was only for herself and DH.
You need some TLC to help you recover but we better not hold our breath.

Actually, if you do have a good rest now you may get better more quickly.
DH was ill with food poisoning years ago and 'kept trying to work it off' - after 3 weeks he went to the GP because he still felt so ill and the GP said 'take a week off and rest, you are sending it round and round your body'.

#Susaninterferes

You have presented this problem amusingly ( for our benefit) but you do sound as if you have had enough.Having had the never ending cough myself for about 6 weeks now at least and which turned into a streaming cold a few days ago I do sympathise with you.Apart from some entertaining family for a few days over Christmas, I then refused to do anything more since.You need to take care of your DH......anyone else can wait ( and maybe look after you for a change?)?

Take time off Granny23!
Very entertaining moan but it's clear you are wearing yourself out. Stop it!

Granny seems to me that you have too much time on your hands and suggest you find a hobby to stop you getting bored I would suggest maybe meteorology or gardening as your daughters kindly provided the idea and instruments for your husband ..maybe a joint hobby.I can see you have many long hours spent being inactive and suggest maybe rock climbing or hang gliding to get the blood flowing.
It is difficult not knowing what to do with yourself when at a loose end and I wish you luck with finding something to occupy yourself

Only jesting if you want something done ask a busy person ...hope you feel better soon and can get a much needed break for yourself

I am speechless with admiration that you did all that whilst suffering from a cough. I hope that venting it on here has given you some relief, but please now take time off for yourself and your convalescence.

I can't believe how helpless some men are. My hubbie drives me mad the way he empties the dishwasher, but at least he does it. (He's another one who bores me with temperature data, too. But he went out and shovelled the snow this morning whilst I sat in a nice hot bath. I suppose I'm lucky.)

I'm laughing too - while recognising the scenario. It's great while we can do it but comes back to bite us on the bum when we can't! One of my Sisters in law has announced that she has done her bit and it's time for the next generation but that seems a huge step to me - yet!

Please sit down for a while today!

I hate to say it but you do seem to have made us all laugh on this miserable morning. Could you perhaps add cheering up gransnetters to your list. On the other side, as with everyone else, I do sympathise and send get well wishes to you

Trouble is that the better you are, the more capable you are, the more willing you are, the stronger you are, no one ever realises that you have too much to cope with and everybody takes you for granted. Quite a few years ago when I was feeling rather like you are now, a dear and very wise friend said to me, "It's not the weak ones we should worry about; it's the strong ones".

I can see that in your case, time might be a bit limited, but have you thought of writing a book? You have such a witty and heartfelt style of writing and I can see a chapter emerging on "Christmas with my relatives" already. . (Leave my nose alone please, it's just a suggestion).

You're exhausted Granny23? I'm exhausted even reading your post! Seriously though, I would just do what Paddyann suggested and take your cough to bed for a few days. You deserve a rest.

Blimey, pure chaos. Love your humour, admire your ability to remain sane. Seriously I think our families forget we aren't invincible. Maybe time to tell them? Sympathise with that cough/cold, 5 weeks here, I call it my boomerang bug. Wishing you a cough free night.

Oh Granny23 I really do sympathise, but next time can you not write so humorously as I'm really trying not to laugh at your style, not your predicament.

I should have mentioned that while DD1 and Son-out-law were doing Christmas dinner at her house for his parents, we were invited to DD2 and SIL's for Christmas dinner as we have been for the last few years. SIL is a wonderful cook and does an amazing Yorkshire style roast with gravy and Yorkshire puddings Unfortunately, their oven packed in on Christmas day so a half cooked large joint of pork and a still raw chicken were rushed to us at 15.00, cooked by me and returned piping hot to their house by us at 17.30, along with the raspberry pavlovas that I was taking anyway.

make yourself a large hot toddy,with whisky ,honey lemon and lemonade ,take two paracetamol ,drink toddy and head to bed ,hope you feel better tomorrow,but on a cautionary note my OH had that cough/cold for a whole 8 weeks

Despite an entirely deserved moan, you seem to have retained your sense of humour - God alone knows how, but is it not time to put the size 5 (foot) firmly down and say you are passing the hospitality/unpaid B&B/hotel open all hours baton on to the next generation (taking my life into my hands here)
Strike while the iron of your fed upness is hot and come next November or December you only need to say "But don't you remember? "
And don't weaken!!!

I sympathise with the entire content of your post ... you and your dh are obviously well loved and a pleasure to be with. I have no advice as I'm in a similar position.....love it most of the time but get fed up with the work it entails.

I can even empathize with your restless legs. As a sufferer of 30+ years with symptoms in arms and legs 24/7 I dare not be without my medication.

Sorry about your last carton of milk !!

And may you rest in peace in the nicest possible way.

Flippin' heck, you must be exhausted.... I am and I only slouched on the sofa reading about it all! Rant away, it's cathartic!