Thanks so much Starlady!
Unfortunately DS1 had mental health problems at college and his therapist suggested family therapy . I saw some letters from his therapst at the time and realised he was lying about us. He refused to involve us, although that is when we realised he had deeper issues. At the time he was stealing from us and lying but we tried to support him as we knew he was troubled. When he went to uni we were relieved and he seemed to have become a nicer person until we ended up living together again, that is.
I think some of his issues are to do with marriage split from his dad, who he was still keeping in touch with last time I heard from my ex. Starlady, you're right. I cant alter his mindset and its better to be apart for now. If only at a tender age he had agreed to family therapy, things might be different. His choice! We can only hope he finds peace. I dont miss the lies and being stolen from, no- not one bit!
Fortunately DS2 has always chosen nice women. We are blessed to have our Grandbaby and his parents here. One day they will have their own place, but babyhood passes so quickly and we're happy to be able to enjoy all the firsts and precious moments.
Harry and Meghan ‘royal’ tour of Nigeria.