Feel used

No, I don't think so! It's lovely, as grandparents to be able to help the AC and GC but it has to be said that we all have a life and I don't thinks it's acceptable for anyone to assume we will be available at a moments notice. Don't get me wrong, my AC have phoned to ask for help with the school run or a medical appointment etc and I'm more than happy to help, but they HAVE called in advance of the events! However, they don't just come over with the kiddies and expect me to drop everything so they can go out socialising. My AC accept that I have my own responsibilities to various charities and they respect me for it and embrace the work I do. I saddens and annoys me that people thinks it ok to walk all over their parents and take then for granted!

I understand where your coming from but if you cannot help your kids who can you help babysitting maybe only when told in advance unless a emergency yes but to lend money etc if you can afford it yes if not in s position to u need to explain and say no I'd be lost without the help if my mum and u help ger when I can sge recently had a operation I did all her shopping running round for weeks that's what family fir!!!

Hope you feel a bit better after venting, children never stop being frustrating.

People will treat you the way you let them, gradually start saying no, start with the small things it will be easier.