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Am I the only one seeking freedom?

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Hetty58 Fri 08-May-20 07:18:34

You can see them through a window - if you have a reasonable excuse to visit.

My daughter brought me shopping, a couple of times, when no delivery slots were available here. She lives 30 miles away.

We spoke on the phone - but through the front room window. It was lovely to see her and the grandchildren. We do Skype, but it's not the same.

Beechnut Fri 08-May-20 06:43:02

I’m so grateful for that too Espee. It’s kept me sane.

Tuppence15 Fri 08-May-20 06:42:32

Please please please don’t be tempted to break the rules.
My ex husband lost his battle with Coronavirus last week. Comforting our son over the Internet is impossibly difficult.
Only ten people are allowed to his funeral but only three people are likely to be able to attend. As our son lives abroad he cannot attend. He is heartbroken.
If you all stay safe at least when this is over you will be able to see each other.

BlueBelle Fri 08-May-20 06:37:18

My son lives 11 thousand miles away and was going to visit me this July I haven’t seen him for four years so no idea when I ll see him again hopefully next year but who knows if they lose their money he ll not be able to finance another visit
But you have to get on with it don’t you? there’s no point in focusing on it and making everyone unhappy and driving yourself mad
There’s more to a relationship than seeing someone
You have to accept some stuff in life no point in mentally fighting it you just drive yourself mad it will all become a memory one day
Think about other things oliver don’t focus all you energy on what you can’t have be inventive about what you do have You're safe, they re safe we all have houses and internet your parents have each other don’t focus all your energies on your sadness

Hetty58 Fri 08-May-20 06:32:21

It's not about what we want, is it?

It's about keeping everyone safe. I can put up with it, have patience and wait it out.

Taking any risks, however small, would have me 'at my wits end' though.

I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I caused someone's illness or death.

Esspee Fri 08-May-20 06:27:47

I am so grateful to live in a time where you can instantly contact each other and video chat.
When I moved to the Caribbean my parents must have been distraught. They thought they might never see me again.

Nansnet Fri 08-May-20 06:19:18

You are not alone in this situation. I live overseas, and my father in the UK, who lives alone since mum died, is disabled and also had a stroke. He just about manages to cope on his own, but he's very lonely whilst in lockdown, and has no one at home to even talk to, except the odd phone/video call. At least your parents have each other. I'm gutted that there's nothing I can do to make things easier for him under the current circumstances.

My daughter in the UK was planning to visit us and now she can't, so I have no idea when we'll get see her again. And my son, Dil, and GC, who live in another country, not too far from us, who we normally get to visit every few weeks, we've not seen since December, and no idea when we will get to see them again. Our GC has changed so much during the past few months, we feel we are missing out on so much, but there's nothing we can do about it.

The important thing is that we all need to stay safe. I could not live with myself if I decided to break the rules, and infected one of my loved ones, just because of my longing to see them.

Evie64 Fri 08-May-20 00:35:41

OliverZach, you need to think to yourself "If I went to visit them, and as a consequence they contracted Covid". How would you feel? We are all missing our families, it's really really tough, I would give anything to cuddle my granddaughter, but you need to be patient for their sakes and your own.

SueDonim Fri 08-May-20 00:28:11

It’s all I want to do, too. It ain’t gonna happen any time soon, though.

MissAdventure Thu 07-May-20 23:55:33

Everyone here wants to see theirs, too.
Most people have things going on which really complicate the distancing.

OliverZach Thu 07-May-20 23:52:08

I am at my wits end. All I want is to be able to see my children, grandchildren & parents. Eldest grandchild is obviously struggling being separated from the rest of the family. Parents, both in their 80’s, mum long term disabled now sole Carer for my dad who had a stroke in October. They are trying to look after each other but struggling. Problem is daughter & grandchildren live over 25 miles away, parents nearly 80 miles away! I just want to see them, they want to see me! I understand about the risks, we all do but want to do? I can accept all the other restrictions but I just want to see my family!