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jenpax Thu 22-Sep-22 15:45:13

For anyone who is/ was a teacher AIBU.
My DGS (year 8) is in top stream at his school. He was off sick one day this week and missed a geography lesson. He was set a quiz, this was the result, he scored 80% despite not being there for one of the relevant lessons, but the teacher gives detention if a student scores less than 100%. He is very distressed as he is conscientious and hard working.
I feel this is overly harsh and discouraging, certainly at his age I too would have been disheartened.
I am keen that he continues to be enthusiastic about school and worry that this type of punitive regime will be counter productive.
The school has an outstanding OFSTED

PaperMonster Sun 25-Sep-22 21:11:34

This detention sounds on a par to the one my daughter was given this week - totally unfair which, in her case, was given out due to circumstances beyond her control and which was given before the teacher had even had the opportunity to speak to her about it. Bloomin crazy and totally demoralising.

Mollygo Mon 26-Sep-22 00:08:47

Re the OP,
I’d have been into school before now about the expectation that children had to get 100%.
The more I see this, the more I wonder am I the only teacher /parent on here who finds it unlikely that all the children in any class get 100% in every test.
How many in that class must be regularly in detention? Would any child continue to be happy at school in those circumstances and are there never complaints from parents?

nanna8 Mon 26-Sep-22 06:45:56

It's ridiculous and I would definitely contact first the headteacher and then, if necessary, the Education Authority if it was my child. Then, if something wasn't done about it,I would remove said child and take her to another school. Schools in the UK aren't that far apart.

effalump Mon 26-Sep-22 10:42:03

I've never had children but I think this sounds like a type of Child abuse. That child will grow up thinking whatever he does is never good enough. I would have been over the moon if I had attained 80% in comprehensive school. Due to bullying, I can't even remember anything much about those last four years.

Gabrielle56 Mon 26-Sep-22 10:49:18

Tbh this so named teacher's grammar and general wording is appalling!! Lack of punctuation renders the instructions a tad ambivalent too. I'd be giving her a big red "SEE ME!!!" for that appalling note! I take it she's either kid free herself or is a bit of a Joan Crawford??

Gabrielle56 Mon 26-Sep-22 10:51:54

jenpax

He had his work, wasn't asked to show it just straight to detention

Maybe she should be looking inwards instead? What did she do WRONG that resulted in a less than 100% attainment? She sounds as if she's a failing teacher rather than overseeing a failing pupil don't we think?

biglouis Mon 26-Sep-22 13:02:45

I was given detention twice in school. Once for the occasion mentioned upthread when the entire class was given it for "chattering". On another occasion a group of us were given it for being in the classroom at break time. On both occasions I just sloped off. I was quite prepared to tell the teacher that I was far more scared of getting a whalloping from my father for coming home late than I was of them. However on the second occasion my absence was not noticed.

I agree with the posters who state that draconian punishments for petty offences or mistakes are futile. Where do you go to when you have "fired off all your big guns"

Eloethan Mon 26-Sep-22 16:36:00

He gets detention for scoring less than 100%. I'm all for expecting high standards but that, to my mind, is absolutely ridiculous.

Detention is probably necessary in some cases but I think it is totally wrong to penalise children for getting low marks. In my view, detention should be used very sparingly.

Mollygo Mon 26-Sep-22 17:06:17

Eloethan I totally agree.
I’m still unconvinced about whether every child with that teacher gets 100% every test. I’ve taught some very clever children, but never a had a class where every child gets top marks.
I’m puzzled why parents haven’t complained before. Surely they would notice if their child was detained at school for a long time at the end of the day.
How can the child or any of them still be happy at that school knowing what awaits them if they make a mistake?

Scotsmum Mon 26-Sep-22 17:37:09

Poor lad. I have never ever got 100% in anything, ever!

A bit off-topic but here's an anecdote for you. This poor little lad brings back memories of my life at boarding school when, after the day girls had all been collected by their parents, we were herded back to a classroom to do our prep, no talking allowed, until supper. I would silently cry through the maths homework because I never understood it, it might as well have been greek.

I knew that I would score too low in the next test, which automatically meant being awarded a black mark. Three black marks meant an automatic detention, too many detentions and you lost the next exeat. Detention wasn't too bad really: it usually comprised copying out the 23rd Psalm 100 times or some such thing. Boring but better than being caned. It was the loss of the half day that stung. And all the extra work sent home with me in the long holidays.

Forty years later I was tested and found to have Dyscalculia, the psychologist was laughing when he showed me the chart: my language was up in the top 2%, numeracy was down in special needs. It explained a lot!

Scotsmum Mon 26-Sep-22 17:47:14

Back on topic: my DDIL has never scored less than 98% in anything. My late FIL was the same. They both were awarded medals at university and all that sort of thing. It's a good job they were/are such nice people or it would be difficult to like them. My first DGS is going the same way, fails nothing.

What concerns me is that if people have never learned to deal with failure - and more importantly, to find their way back from it - will they not be totally un-masted when it does eventually come their way?

I'm all for a school encouraging children to put in the effort and have pleasure from the achievements, but doesn't this binary approach of 'it has to be 100%' right or you've failed', risk dis-incentivising those who struggle?

Luckygirl3 Mon 26-Sep-22 19:48:39

Scotsmum

Poor lad. I have never ever got 100% in anything, ever!

A bit off-topic but here's an anecdote for you. This poor little lad brings back memories of my life at boarding school when, after the day girls had all been collected by their parents, we were herded back to a classroom to do our prep, no talking allowed, until supper. I would silently cry through the maths homework because I never understood it, it might as well have been greek.

I knew that I would score too low in the next test, which automatically meant being awarded a black mark. Three black marks meant an automatic detention, too many detentions and you lost the next exeat. Detention wasn't too bad really: it usually comprised copying out the 23rd Psalm 100 times or some such thing. Boring but better than being caned. It was the loss of the half day that stung. And all the extra work sent home with me in the long holidays.

Forty years later I was tested and found to have Dyscalculia, the psychologist was laughing when he showed me the chart: my language was up in the top 2%, numeracy was down in special needs. It explained a lot!

How cruel some schools were.

Your mentioning of maths being a block makes me think of one of my DDs who was/is utterly 100% useless at maths. She has an MA, so no shortage of marbles there. But whichever bit of her brain deals with figures is totally off beam. She used to make us smile when doing maths "problems" where you had to decide whether to multiply/divide etc. - she would just make some random calculation - and every now and again the laws of chance would mean she got it right - she was so chuffed!!

StoneofDestiny Tue 27-Sep-22 00:35:26

I teach in a collage and this is unacceptable

I hope you don’t…..

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Glorianny Tue 04-Oct-22 11:17:04

Detentions are regulated by law, one of the restrictions is that the offence must be proportionate to the punishment. It would appear that this isn't. You can Google "Law about school detention in UK" and read the regulations.

NotSpaghetti Tue 04-Oct-22 16:08:05

Gabrielle56

Tbh this so named teacher's grammar and general wording is appalling!! Lack of punctuation renders the instructions a tad ambivalent too. I'd be giving her a big red "SEE ME!!!" for that appalling note! I take it she's either kid free herself or is a bit of a Joan Crawford??

This was exactly my point last week Gabrielle.
Not SO outstanding!

Mollygo Tue 04-Oct-22 16:53:58

There’s lots of different sources, but according to www.gov.uk/school-discipline-exclusions
Detention
Schools don’t have to give parents notice of after-school detentions or tell them why a detention has been given.
Doesn’t make it right to give a detention for 80%, but I can’t believe that this is the first time it’s happened to any pupil in that class and that no complaints from parents have been made before.