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What shall I buy my sister in law for her birthday?

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kittylester Sun 07-Aug-16 18:42:16

My sister in law will be 75 in September and, although we are quite different, she is the nearest thing I have to a sister.

She is not really into clothes, make-up, perfume or ornament type things. She loves her dog, birdwatching and going for walks

Her husband (DH'S brother) is becoming more and more disabled (and cantankerous!!) with arthritis and is shortly to have an operation which might leave him in a wheelchair. She has given up all her volunteering to look after him so sees few people now. She says her world has shrunk to their house and dog walking.

I ring her often and am trying to make her do something for herself but she can't see the wood for the trees. Her children are hopeless.

She would be embarrassed if I spent a lot on her but i would like to spoil her a bit.

Please help!

Disgruntled Mon 08-Aug-16 17:16:28

There are organisations called something like Borrow My Dog where people look after a dog for a day or two, might be worth checking out.

frue Mon 08-Aug-16 17:44:52

I love this site. Everyone so positive and helpful and supportive on troubling issues
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spyder08 Mon 08-Aug-16 18:40:27

Stansgran What a lovely idea...the company is Bloom and Wild

Ginny42 Mon 08-Aug-16 18:58:43

I ordered a selection of goodies for an afternoon tea parcel to be delivered from Betty's in Harrogate for my ex's elderly parents and they loved it and it lasts a few days. You can choose what they would like and they can share it together. Arthritis is very painful and it makes sufferers cantankerous to be in constant pain, but it's also very hard for the carer coping with it all. Thank goodness she has you looking out for her and trying to give her a special treat.

I hope she has a lovely birthday.

Lewlew Tue 09-Aug-16 12:28:49

Someone mentioned a bird cam. There is also a site that has world-wide webcams you can watch for free of all kinds of wildlife.

explore.org/live-cams/ Scroll right to see all the cams. Landing page will change when you select one and all the cam's thumbnails will show below the video chosen so you can change.

I am currently watching the Brooks Falls Alaska brown bear salmon run. Mind your time zone as most of these do not have night vision. Right now the bears are hilarious, and if you scroll below the icons once you choose a cam set to watch, there is a chat board. It moves very fast for popular cams, but on the bear cams, there are people who have been watching for years and know all the bears. Plus the park service has a bear book you can download.

There are bird cams for osprey, eagles, etc. Bison on the Saska CA plains... humming birds... all kinds of animals have live cams when their season is at their height. Rest of the time (night or out of season) you can watch cam highlights and the videos are so labelled). You can open the videos to watch directly from YouTube if you you want a bigger screening.

Enjoy! It's free... courtesy of the Annenberg Family Foundation which gives grants to many of the cam's home causes. You just have to click around to get used to it.

Lewlew Tue 09-Aug-16 12:30:41

Sorry above... you need to click on the menu for LIVE CAMS once at the page... messed up the link.

Aurelia Tue 09-Aug-16 13:39:33

Another vote for an afternoon tea hamper, M&S have a couple to choose from. My DIL loved hers!

embo32 Tue 09-Aug-16 14:46:49

Take her out for High Tea, get your Husband to stay with him