My OH has just asked me what our budget is? First time he's ever shown any interest in any Christmas planning by the way! I was dumbfounded I'll admit. I have absolutely no idea. I just keep buying till everyone has a gift. I'm not particularly extravagant - we don't have the money to be - but it still adds up. If I think how much I've spent so far I'd guess it's approaching £200 and I'm probably not even halfway yet. There seem to be a large number of people to think of. Think I'll go hide my head in the sand again...
I buy one gift for my friend, about £30. The Bodach and I don’t exchange gifts. Grandchildren get £50 ( £300) each for their parents to do with as they see fit, and we’ve done away with adults’ gifts. Regards, Ma Scrooge.
( Incidentally, when we did give to adults, and at birthdays, we give the same amount to children and children in laws.)
Once again a tgread is deteriorating into personal abuse. I hate this sbout gransnet. Leave farview & grannygrunt alone! We are all different, we have different circumstances and opinions. It's interesting to hear a range of opinions. I rather agree with grannygrunt, but hypocritically it doesnt stop me spending a ridiculous amount. As for Farview we have nonidea of her circumstances and she has asked for help in dealing with a difficult situation (ie buying Christmas presents, not her whole lifestyle.) I also quite often ask for household equipment for a present - my life, my choice!
I certainly did not use any form of abuse to Granny grunt I simply pointed out that to call someone's spending obscene was not in the spirit of GN and then agreed with her that we should post what we want and think.
Just looked back and you are right, I apologise. Personally I was speaking generally about the huge amount people (myself included) spend at Christmas. I try to cut down but find it hard with a large family and don't want to appear mean. . However I have never gone into debt as I believe some do ( not referring to anyone on this site) in an effort to keep up with others.
I think what is coming across here is that the amount we spent isn't the point. I could spend twice as much as I do on presents, or half as much. The point is to give a gift, or an amount of money, that will mean something to the recipient. The gifts that have meant the most to me are those that have been chosen with thought and care, not necessarily the most lavish.