Yes Christmas has been brought up already! DS and DIL have spent alternate Xmas with us and her family and New Year the opposite way round, ie we have them for Xmas or new year each year. Everyone seems happy with that. Now we have a DGS a lot has been said that ‘first’ Xmas will be with DIL family, but that’s ok with us, our time will come ....or maybe not. DS has now said they might have DIL family to them this Xmas and we could either go for dinner, bringing some parts of it or just call round, then they will go to DIL family for new year and then the next year they might spend with DIL family. As it wasn’t our Xmas I’ve already made arrangements with our parents to come to us and it seems like I’m being offered a shared/part Xmas and missing our turn altogether. I’ve said if they want a Xmas on their own I’m happy with that, but this is a change to every Xmas with DIL family. If that’s what they want I would rather them come out and be honest, DIL family have been given priority with DGS so far, but I’m a lot more accepting of this now (it was very upsetting in the early days) , and to be honest I’ve realised that if they don’t care about visiting etc being fair, I just can’t keep dwelling on it. I’m just getting on with our life and seeing DGS when I’m allowed to. So would you point all this out to DS or just go along with it like it’s all ok? I kind of think they think I’m stupid and they are just manipulating the situation, selling as a ‘you’ll get to see him on his first Xmas this way’, I’ve never said that was an issue for me.
July 23 Limerick (continuation of July 21)
apple trees not flowering this year. Anyone else?