My mother had a son before marrying my father - he knew about the child who was adopted at a few months old. Neither I nor my brother were aware of this brother until recently. I asked my 86 year old mother about it and she flew into a rage totally denying it, however before I asked her I traced the birth certificate to confirm the news we had come across while searching for something else for her in old correspondence. My father died many years ago.
I have tried to put this brother - who would be 64 now - out of my mind but I wonder about contacting him as a sibling (which I can do legally through an agency) My mother no longer speaks to me (she was always a difficult woman and not a kind mother). Would an adopted person want to meet a sibling and understand that it wouldn’t be possible to meet his mother? Or is it best left alone?
