I think your daughter used that written fun method to take the heat off, because she knew you would not deal with the situation, would be heart broken, and probably try to stop them or even start crying
The story has now changed a bit that it s now not about them moving away so much but about them not thanking you and disrespecting you, which I totally agree with isn’t good at all of course your son in law should have thanked you, but we don’t know what the relationship has been, or maybe they feel the need to escape quickly, before you tried to talk them out of it Maybe they ll be sending you a big thank you present when they get settled there
Re the dog if it’s your daughters dog then she presumably has asked her husband to take it, again maybe he took it quickly knowing you would not deal with seeing it go very easily
I m sure you and your husband have been wonderful parents and done all you can, maybe even too much
I m sorry this has upset you so much did you have no idea it was on the books , and I m also glad you have a lovely husband, you are so lucky, now you can concentrate on him perhaps if you look in hindsight maybe you’ve done too much, made them the centre of your life and that is why you both have fell so very hard.
Won’t you visit ? It’s the next state not overseas
I hope you and your husband start doing some fun things together and don’t let this dominate your life
Pull yourself up and start thinking about a visit