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Grandparent hand book recommendation

(15 Posts)
Beebawbabbity Tue 28-Feb-23 09:06:03

Hi, can anyway recommend a handbook/guide for a new grandparent. It’s been a while since I had any dealings with babies and young children and know things have changed a lot since then!

NanKate Tue 28-Feb-23 09:10:07

Bee you will be given lots of instructions by the parents, listen carefully and then do your own thing 😉

M0nica Tue 28-Feb-23 09:15:41

I second that.

Chocolatelovinggran Tue 28-Feb-23 09:15:58

I enjoyed Jane Fearnley Whittingstall's " Good Granny Guide" : in fact, it introduced me to GN. Thank you JFW!

Redhead56 Tue 28-Feb-23 09:18:11

You don’t need a handbook you will instinctively know what to do. As NanKate has said you will be given lots of instructions by the parents. My two gave me instructions and kept telling everything has changed since they were born yeh right!

ElaineI Tue 28-Feb-23 09:19:24

Always follow parents instructions. My DDs did not have books as they just look things up online so no idea what books would help. Find out what brand of nappies and wipes they use and have a few in case of emergencies. But best ask the parents if you intend getting a few books/toys to keep at yours. Enjoy xxxx

Calendargirl Tue 28-Feb-23 09:19:50

Chocolatelovinggran

I enjoyed Jane Fearnley Whittingstall's " Good Granny Guide" : in fact, it introduced me to GN. Thank you JFW!

I was given this book nearly 18 years ago. Also enjoyed it, but I expect things have moved on even from then.

Hithere Tue 28-Feb-23 09:21:48

Do hospital offer courses for grandparents?

Please follow the parents' rules

Grannybags Tue 28-Feb-23 10:03:02

No need for a handbook. If you do any childcare the baby will arrive with a long list of instructions from the parents!

Just stick to that and you'll be fine

Katyj Tue 28-Feb-23 11:44:22

My first Grandchild came with two sides of A4 paper with written instructions for an overnight stay 😳

Taylor2016 Tue 28-Feb-23 12:10:04

This post has made me smile so much…..there was me thinking, it was only I that received instructions 🤣

No books needed ……listen/nod/agree and it will all return organically.

Chestnut Tue 28-Feb-23 12:20:22

Also, Gransnet is a mine of information! You don't need a book because it's all here. Just search the old threads or post a new one, but don't give out any personal information which might identify you.

M0nica Tue 28-Feb-23 20:17:59

Grandchildren are babes in arms for less than a year, toddlers for barely 5.

My eldest DGC is nearly 16 - and we have done it all with out a set of instructions. We haven't fallen out with our DS and DDiL at any point over them and we have built up relationships with our DGC based on who we are and they are and the interests we share, whether days out in Bath shopping and having lunch at Cote with DGD or having deep serious conversations on philosophical issues with DGS

kittylester Tue 28-Feb-23 20:25:12

In our house we have signs in the kitchen and play room saying 'Ma and Pa's house, Ma and Pa's rules'. The dgc love using it against their parents.

Jaxjacky Tue 28-Feb-23 21:42:04

Our grandchildren arrived for stays with minimal instructions and a daughter who just wanted a night out! Seriously, we were quietly pleased she trusted us, we managed fine and 15 years later still do.
I’m sure it’ll all go well Beebaw others before me have given excellent advice.