When to keep schtum?

Y'know I'm getting quite stroppy these days; d'you think gransnet is giving us superhuman powers?

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Granny_Goodness

..of course, it falls short of cutting'n'pasting sometimes

spider-bob.com/villains/dc/GrannyGoodness.htm

Apparently (I have no recollection of this) I told my DD2 when she was a teenager that there are some people whose friendship and approval is neither a desirable nor a valuable commodity and therefore it is not worth spending time or energy trying to cultivate them. DD, whose natural instinct is to be kind to everyone, has said that this piece of advice has stood her in good stead on many occasions with difficult people.

I would not waste a single moment worrying about this person. In fact I would have sent a copy of the article to everyone who was in ear shot when she disagreed with you.

I would probably have done the same - or taken it in to the next meeting and shown it to her.

Life's to short to let people who are wrong think they are right! Just enjoy being right, g'mum. I do!

to short too short. Exile to pedants' corner.

Thank you!! I am aware that I was brought up to be compliant i.e. a "people pleaser" (possibly because my Mum, being German, was subjected to more than enough hostility in their small Scottish town and that made her unwilling to brook further disapproval in any way ) but as you say I don't need this person's approval and the fact is she was wrong .
I knew I could rely on stroppy grans!!

I have to say I should have done the same thing gracesmum and the older I get the less I am prepared to put up with things. DD2 makes me feel quite guilty when she says: 'Choose your argument' and boy has she had some arguments to cope with recently

Ok, being in a minority of one I would have smiled sweetly and let it go. Not worth, IMHO taking any further action over.

Not relevant to your actions, although I wholeheartedly support you gracesmum, but I have a vague feeling that it later emerged that it wasn't a beef burger that John Gummer force fed his daughter at the height of the BSE scare, but a chicken burger. Spin or what?

After listening to DGD (17) last night, explaining how she had set up systems for her Student Team (she's Head Girl!) and how she was quite cross with someone and what she intended to do etc. etc. I remarked admiringly to DH what a confident, assertive young woman she was, not to say quite stroppy at times.

"I think it might be hereditary on the female side," he said.

Ariadne, you've got me thinking about my assertive GD2 who certainly takes after...her mother...

For some reason nowadays things like this really get to me. I seem to have to prove to the person that I am right if I am sure I am. I think the advice on here to 'let it go' is much kinder (to yourself)

I think I would have just let it go. But we each have to be to be true to ourselves, and if it felt right to you to send the proof, then it is right.

Good for you!

I would have said what I thought at the meeting but afterwards I think I would just have checked for my own sake (and probably thought "Humph!" about the other person ).

I like the bit about it probably being a chicken burger, absent. I wonder if beef burgers ever contained horsemeat back then?

Goodness knows what is in burgers of any sort!!! I feel better about emailing the lady in question as she has replied in a totally friendly manner and I suspect it hasn't bothered her at all!
(TBH if I had been wrong I would have done exactly the same, admitting I was wrong without a second thought)
Further to the BSE business, I remember feeling terribly guilty as I used to buy "economy" burgers for the girls, I think from Bejam or maybe Sainsbury's and I would rather not think what muck the poor children were ingesting

The horsemeat part doesn't bother me at all. It's still meat. It was the mislabelling that was the problem.

When the BSE thing was happening my kids didn't have beef for a long time and then their dad took them to a bonfire and bought them beefburgers [grrr]. Then my daughter, who loved Cornish Pasties insisted on eating them again. She said years later I should have overridden her decision [you just can't win with some people]. Why does John Gummer remind me of watsisname [the plonker that's over education now?].

I think I would have just let it go, couldn't care enough about what such a person thought. We have a friend who regularly says things in an assertive way which we know are wrong but we just say what we know to be the fact and then let it go and very often some time later she says what we said in the first place. We don't know if she goes and checks and doesn't admit she is wrong or whether she has taken on board what we say but just not given to admitting she was wrong. Not very bothered really unless it is about family or otherwise important.

Dammit, tell 'em you are right! You can do it nicely (as you plainly did, gracesmum) so that you don't come over as a big-headed know-it-all but it has long been a female trait to shut up, instead of standing up! I'm with you, every time.

I'm just impressed that you know how to 'cut and paste' as I wouldn't have a clue how to do it!