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Are you like your mother?

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MissAdventure Tue 12-Sep-17 18:30:14

Or your father? I want to include everyone here. Ladies, woman, men and everyone.
Are any of you like your parent? Do you look in the mirror and see them looking back?

Imperfect27 Tue 12-Sep-17 21:41:22

Yes, lovely picture callgirl. You both have smiling eyes. smile

Sometimes we don't see the resemblances so much ourselves until others point them out to us. I think I look like women in my dad's side of the family, but am frequently told how much like my mother I am. I do have her voice.

Luckygirl Tue 12-Sep-17 22:20:01

I inherited so much from my Dad.......bad short sight, piles, varicose veins.........thanks Dad! grin

Katek Tue 12-Sep-17 22:51:23

Def not. I'm much more like my father in looks and temperament and becoming even more like him with each passing year.

annodomini Tue 12-Sep-17 23:07:39

My mother worried about everything and everyone. I am the opposite. Life was so much easier when I got a job 4000 miles away. I would like to be like my father - clever, kind and generous. No, perhaps I am not quite like either of them, but I often see my granny in the mirror!

Jomarie Tue 12-Sep-17 23:07:55

The biggest insult my husband and I can hurl at each other is ~"you are just like your mother" - we both adored our fathers. So sad don't you think? We both would love to be just like our fathers but unfortunately we are not. Does tend to make one believe in "Karma" confused

Teetime Wed 13-Sep-17 08:50:06

I look like my mother but in NO WAY to I have her characteristics - I would shoot myself!!!

Dad however was a lovely sunny person who would do anything for anyone - I try to be like him.

lovebeigecardigans1955 Wed 13-Sep-17 09:39:58

I think I take after my mum. She was nice but sadly a bit of a doormat for dad's bullying. I've learned to be more assertive over the years. At times she would stand up for herself but this would cause massive rows.
I may have given my opinions too forcefully like dad but I've learned diplomacy - something he never did.
Luckily I married a nice man who takes after neither of his parents.

radicalnan Wed 13-Sep-17 09:46:01

I so wish I was like dad. He had every talent, brilliant jazz musician, dancer, sportsman, builder, artist, driver, sense of humour.......how did all of that pass me by?

damewithaname Wed 13-Sep-17 09:47:55

I look like mum and have mum's mentality (respect another person's space) but I'm a lot like Dad with being impatient.

lemongrove Wed 13-Sep-17 09:52:06

In looks, I can see both my parents in myself, and also bits of characteristics too.My Mother was a really lovely person, I was lucky there, and Dad made us laugh but had no concept of saving money at all.Both were crossword mad ( me too) and loved the theatre( me too.)Both were interested in history and gardening, which I also am.

Daisydoo2 Wed 13-Sep-17 09:52:41

Nothing like my parents thankfully.

Christinefrance Wed 13-Sep-17 09:56:04

Not like my mother at all but my eldest daughter is so like me in looks and temperament. My younger daughter complains she has the worst features of both parents.?

starlily106 Wed 13-Sep-17 09:57:46

I would hate to be anything like my mother. She was the most selfish, nasty person in the world. She slept with anyone, neglected my dad, brother and me, was always up to her eyeballs in debt to pay for things to wear for herself, lied and stole anything of value from me after I was married, including my engagement and eternity rings. She even brought a boyfriend of hers to my wedding, and paid more attention to him than my poor dad. I was left to cook, clean and do the washing and ironing when I was 9, this was when flat irons and cold water were the order of the day, but I just had to put up with it. I was more mother than sister to my little brother. None of her family were like her. They were all good mothers and fathers. We didn't ever have sheets and pillowcases for the beds. And right up to the day she died she would always open any mail she got her hands on, regardless of who it belonged to.
Thank the Lord I'm not like her at all.

StKilda Wed 13-Sep-17 10:06:31

Oh how I wish I were more like my mother! At nearly 89, she is so beautiful and has a caring and serene nature.

Kim19 Wed 13-Sep-17 10:14:56

I look like my Mother and am not at all unhappy about that. However I wish I had more of her personal attributes. She was a woman of such integrity that I daily think of her with huge admiration and gratitude. Unfortunately I didn't find out about many of her kindnesses and strengths until after her death when others related particular incidents to me. Amazing woman methinks. I was truly blessed without actually realising it.

sarahellenwhitney Wed 13-Sep-17 10:27:25

I am not like my mother other than in looks. There the resemblance ends.
As an only child, I did not find out until her later years, why I had always felt such an inconvenience to her and what was so obvious her disinterest in any thing I did.
Another story but this experience made me what I am today. A survivor for which I am grateful.

Blinko Wed 13-Sep-17 10:28:05

I have my father's physical traits but with my mother's colouring. My OH took a photo on holiday a year or so back, and somehow I seemed to resemble both my Grandmothers.... shock

downtoearth Wed 13-Sep-17 10:33:07

I am nothing like either of my parents....in looks or personality....must have been a foundling...I loved them but didnt always like them not easy relationship with them

Tweedle24 Wed 13-Sep-17 10:40:11

I sometimes see my mother and sometimes my father so, I must be good mix of both of them.

MissAdventure Wed 13-Sep-17 10:43:54

I've been stopped once by a total stranger to ask if I was related to an uncle on my dads side. (Dark haired, sharp featured)I have also had a total stranger say "You must be John's daughter" - John is my mums brother. (Blond, snubby nosed looking)

Emelle Wed 13-Sep-17 10:48:35

Like starlily106, I sincerely hope not for so many reasons. I work very hard at not being anything like her and it almost scares me when I get a glimpse of her when I look in the mirror.

TriciaF Wed 13-Sep-17 10:57:52

I'm like Dad's side of the family, my sister is like Mum's side.
In nature and appearance.

Hollycat Wed 13-Sep-17 10:58:09

My eldest daughter and I resemble my mother, who had dark eyes and chestnut hair, even though we are blue eyed blonds. She was a wonderful, dear mother and in trying situations I find myself asking what she would have done so I can do it too. When I think of my father I always smile. He was kind and so funny but wise too. I loved them both dearly and hope I am just a little bit like both.

Smithy Wed 13-Sep-17 11:12:10

I thought I looked more like my dad who died 20 years ago but when my Mum died 10 years ago the priest said I was her double. I have unfortunately inherited a lot of their weaker points shall we say, so I try constantly to ''do better'.

Esspee Wed 13-Sep-17 11:14:18

I realise I am becoming more like my mum as I age. Unfortunately it is the traits which irritated me that I am noticing.