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Does anyone else still feel a bit lost without their Mum?

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GrandmaMoira Sat 20-Jul-19 21:29:41

It will be 40 years in a few months since my mother died and she seems very distant now. It's only my brother and his wife that remember her now as none of her grandchildren knew her.

Cherrytree59 Sat 20-Jul-19 21:25:24

I miss both my parents.
My mum died from breast cancer 31 years ago this month

However it is my maternal grandmother that I long for.
She was always there for me until she was struck down by alzheimer in her nineties even then she would still coorie in for a cuddle.

She died in 1998 and I miss her every day.sad

ginny Sat 20-Jul-19 21:16:04

I don’t feel lost but 26 years after my Mum died I still miss her(. I was 38).
She was always there with just the right words or actions.

My friends always used to say that if they had something good happen to them they would want to tell my Mum as she was always so pleased for them . It made things twice as good . Anything bad and she would make it seem half as bad.

GrannyGravy13 Sat 20-Jul-19 21:01:08

My Mum died 2yrs 3months ago, I miss her so much, she was my best friend, my confidant my go to person.

It's my birthday in a couple of days, and she was so into birthdays, Easter and Christmas it is just not the same without her.

She was the centre of our family, my sister, my children and grandchildren miss her so much.

When I go to Lakeside or Bluewater I still imagine her with me and have conversations with her in my head.

Her loss still hurts every day.........

Gransooz Sat 20-Jul-19 20:59:49

My mum passed away nearly 7 years ago when I was 59 and she was 99. Although she was in a nursing home for the last few years, she still knew us but slept a lot. She was my best friend and I’ll always miss her. Often I wish I could just pick up the phone and talk to her.

fizzers Sat 20-Jul-19 20:58:55

my mam only died at Christmas, she was 92 and had been getting increasingly sicker the past few months of her life, she wanted to go, she'd had enough, she said so when she had her lucid moments, so I knew, I feel bereft, orphaned, angry. I carry on with my life, with my remaining family, but I have my bad days

paddyann Sat 20-Jul-19 20:52:29

Bluebelle I miss my dad most.My mum was always "delicate" so dads mantra was dont worry your mum.He was the one we turned to with school things or boyfriend problems and even when I was pregnant with my first baby.My mum was a spoilt child who grew into a spoilt woman ,dont get me wrong I loved her dearly but I was much closer to my Daddy .

Bordersgirl57 Sat 20-Jul-19 20:51:30

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Grannyknot Sat 20-Jul-19 20:50:10

I don't feel lost without my mother but I still miss her, 25 years after she died.

I saw a stranger on the street just today and for a moment I thought it was her ❤. It made me happy.

BlueBelle Sat 20-Jul-19 20:36:13

My mum had Alzheimer’s for the last seven years and had to go into residential because dad was on his own we used to ring for a chat at least three times a day so it’s dads conversations I miss the most They died within 6 months of each other I really really miss them both

MissAdventure Sat 20-Jul-19 20:29:54

Oh yes, I miss having my mum to talk to.
We were really good friends, until life got very bleak for all of us, then she died.

Kandinsky Sat 20-Jul-19 20:22:51

I’m 56 & my Mum passed away 5 years ago, yet I still feel a bit ‘lost’ & uncertain about everything.
My Mum lived to a good age & I know ‘that’s life’ but I just never imagined life without her.

Does anyone else feel the same?