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grannyactivist Sun 20-Oct-19 00:31:16

I'm feeling slightly miffed that after so many weeks of being ill I'm now seriously missing out on things. The Wonderful Man went on a march without me today for the first time and tomorrow he'll drive alone to our youngest grandson's dedication service. (My daughter actually uninvited me for fear that I might try and make the journey!)

I really, really hoped to be well in time to attend these things and I'm frustrated not to, but aware that in the grand scheme of things missing them is not too important.

What things have you missed out on that you regret?

Gabigirl Mon 21-Oct-19 17:17:17

I have never been able to find inner peace over a serious “missing out” session that happened 8 years ago? After four years of intense studying , my eldest daughter graduated from university (in another part of the country) on the same night as my youngest had her Prom. I stayed back to help get her dress etc ready and my husband flew to the graduation.. very bittersweet and conflicted moment....??

Suki70 Mon 21-Oct-19 21:54:49

grannyactivist I hope you're feeling better, wish you a speedy recovery and have something to look forward to that you won't have to miss.

Amagran Tue 22-Oct-19 09:57:21

grannyactivist I am so sorry that you are feeling down about not being able to get to significant events. I hope you will be well soon. flowers

Since DH's illness a year ago, we are only just now beginning to get out and about again, although he wasn't up to the march on Saturday.

It may have been disappointing for you as a seasoned activist, but unwittingly you passed the baton to me as I went on my first march, carrying a 'grans for the EU' placard! Yes, I know it was a bit naff, but so many people had asked me to march 'for them' too.

Blinko Tue 22-Oct-19 10:07:13

I wish I had known about the service of dedication when our DSs were born. I was reluctant to commit them to any particular belief system and wanted them to choose what was right for them in due course.

Some form of dedication and giving thanks would have been ideal.

Iam64 Tue 22-Oct-19 16:18:09

Anthea1948 - do you have a good rheumatologist and one of the new disease modifiers? Changed my life as a fellow RA sufferer

Hetty58 Wed 23-Oct-19 23:06:33

I have a back injury but I've completely changed my attitude to events. I don't even think about missing out, but wonder how I can refuse the invitations and stay at home instead. There's no joy in being in pain without any hope of a lie down.