I am going through some seriously sad times right now. My husband has stage 4 lung cancer - scans were clear a few months ago but it has shown up in lymph nodes. Our son is getting a divorce from a woman we love. It’s a mutual decision and they’re determined to keep it amicable for their four-year-old son but I know how things can get ugly. These things are frankly part of a long list of issues that I’ve dealt with since 2014 - illness and death of both parents, son’s clinical depression, husband’s many health issues. I am okay - healthy as a horse, efficient, organized but I am not sure who I am anymore because there are so many things affecting the ones whom I live and I can’t seem to distance myself from them because I have to help and cope with those things. I do see a mental health provider and, for the third time in my life, am taking medications to help me with the stress. I know that if I had a strong religious faith or spiritual belief it would be a comfort but I just don’t. My doc has suggested that I need a similar “outlet” to which I can channel my anxiety and stress but I just don’t know what that can be, let alone that babysitting for my wonderful grandson (the light of my life) nonetheless takes time as does dealing with my DH’s health needs and appointments. I know there are worse tragedies in the world - some have actually occurred to close friends (death of adult children, sudden death of husband, etc) but I am struggling. Any suggestions for someone for whom faith and spirituality just don’t seem to be part of her make-up?
