Losing my friend because of vaccine, Feeling very guilty

I hope that if you let this cool a bit, she will realise she was unfair. I think there is a lot of 'sensitivity' going about, as we see from posts on this forum.
I think that your GP's decision was sensible and one I would have taken.
It seems to me that there is a disconnect between the vaccinations organised at GP surgeries - where the staff have local knowledge from car parking to bus routes to household organisation; and those organised at large centres where they can only use the data provided, and have no idea how folk will get there, how able they are to stand in a queue etc.

Our lovely surgery in a rural area is now vaccinating just-turned-70s. A family friend in her 90s in another area was just offered 2 places to get vaccinated - both large hubs in cities and both over an hour's drive from her home. She is waiting for someone to get back to her about somewhere nearer. I should add that she lives in a densely populated urban area, and I have no idea why the local surgeries are not vaccinating.

OH and I are in our late 60s and had the jab at the weekend. Our surgery are brilliant. Friends over the road attend a different surgery, they are in their 70s but haven’t had their jab yet. They reckon their surgery has a wider catchment area. Our village is midway between two towns so some go to a surgery in one town, and some in the other.

Thank you friends on my computer. I do understand her feelings but she has always made a thing that we have never judged each other. I tried not to make a big thing of it but I couldn't not tell her. I am sure things will settle we are all so edgy at the moment. Stay safe everyone and thank you.

I'm amazed at how some people would rather see a vaccine binned than given to someone "out of turn". The priority list has been drawn up and as far as possible should be adhered to. But, and it's a big but, there will always be times when it is prudent to give doses to the people who are available, like Sarnia's son in law amongst others. If we want to wait countrywide for every over 80 to be vaccinated before moving onto 75 plus etc it's going to take an awful lot longer and many, many vaccines will be wasted which would be criminal. You were absolutely correct to accept the vaccine

Probably get deleted because it is about another thread but have you read the thread “Rude, stupid or AIBU’ in Coronavirus Forum.

It might give you a different view of how your friend responded. And how your news felt to her.

Jeannie, I agree with other GNs here: of course you were right to accept the vaccine. It would have been awful were it to have been wasted - and you are a carer for a vulnerable person. You made a sensible and logical decision! Your friend needs to understand this - and to stop whingeing!

Very mean spirited of your friend. Just be glad you had the vaccine and stop feeling guilty.

My friend and her husband have had both doses of the vaccine.She is his carer and that’s why they gave it to her as well.She is a lot younger than him,she wouldn’t have had it yet normally.

I am delighted for them both.

You need to ignore her unkind insinuations. You were offered the vaccine for very good and very valid reasons. Try not to let her comments upset you. Sounds a little bit like jealousy creeping in on her part, to be honest.

Peasblossom thank you I've now looked at it and its a good point, however for various reasons my friends parent, both children and a grandchild have already been vaccinated and I told her how glad I was for them and still am.

I’m so pleased for everyone who is getting it! It’s heartening to hear of so many people receiving it. I don’t even care if it’s out of synch - better that than wasted as others have said.

And our rollout of vaccination is just brilliant. Just been on the news - 7.4 million people have had their jabs now and over 80% of the over 80’s.

Pretty darn amazing.
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We all get it wrong sometimes. I just thought if you could understand why she might have got it wrong it might help the friendship to continue.

Now I can see the way you both feel it’s probably it’s the end.

Ah well. Friendships come and go.

Vaccine envy. There is a lot of it about. Anyone who is offered the vaccine should have it and not feel guilty.
We will get our turn and should wait patiently. It would be impossible to keep the whole of the UK in strict order of priority.

You did the right thing. A friend would be pleased for you.

Thank you Peasblossom it is much appreciated x

As Sparkling said a friend would be pleased for you.
Please don’t let this get to you. You have nothing to feel guilty about, Best wishes .ps. The more people who get the better for all, so you’ve done your bit so to speak ?

My son’s friend , a very fit young man , age 22 had a jab last week. He is volunteering at our local vaccination hub and had one at the end of the session that was destined for the bin ? as a result of a ‘ no show ‘ .

This practice will be going on all around the country and your friend is very silly if she doesn’t know this .

Probably best not to tell people when you’ve had it!

AGAA4

Vaccine envy. There is a lot of it about. Anyone who is offered the vaccine should have it and not feel guilty.
We will get our turn and should wait patiently. It would be impossible to keep the whole of the UK in strict order of priority.

Perhaps we should have just formed a huge orderly queue sorted by age and vulnerabilities?

Vaccine envy ! Madness!

Ignore your friend. It is none of her business.

Since when has life been fair ever?

Your husband was offered because he has health problems and you are his carer so I am glad you have both had the vaccine.

Perhaps the vaccine would have been wasted if you hadn't had it.

When they come to call people between 65 and 70, you and many others will have been "done" and so they will get through the population quicker and quicker and so many people will end up having the vaccine ahead of when they thought they would get it.

Put your friend's remarks out of your mind if you can. She's probably jealous but I bet she would not want your health problems.

EllanVannin

That's no friend, is it ? I loathe begrudging people.
See to yourselves and blow what others say.

Absolutely Ellan!

Absolutely do NOT feel guilty. It’s not about who has it and in what order in the end, although personally I’ve felt it’s the wrong order. It’s about numbers...and getting people done. The more there are, the closer we are to the end, and the less risk for those who haven’t had it yet. You having the vaccine, has made it safer for me, and the people I love. So thank you ?

Yes, I agree with others. Not much of a friend it seems.

I hope all these comments have put your mind at rest Jeannie and you can stop feeling guilty at your friend’s uncharitable attitude. Feel relieved that by having yours, you are protecting yourself and others from this horrific virus. Very best wishes to you and your husband.

Unfortunately there are some people so highly strung up at the moment that the slightest thing will cause them to react in a way that they would never do normally. I suspect that applies to your friend. If you leave her alone until you have both had the vaccines, I think you will find her much calmer and probably a bit ashamed, it is fear that is making her react the way she has. I am very glad that you have both been 'done'!