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Do you judge?

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kircubbin2000 Thu 11-Aug-22 13:45:30

Following the common post and the comments about snobbisness do you judge critically on first impressions? I do it naturally, perhaps because my gran used to do a running commentary on everyone. She would say there's Mrs so and so, she was one of the skivvies in the factory and now she hasnt tuppence to rub together.She had a potted history of everyone in the village which was entertaining if not pc.
My grandson was horrified when I described someone as fat. You can't say that he said.
I think it's natural to have a little snapshot of people even if they prove to be wrong.For example a little lady my age in M and s outfit and I think perhaps church goer sensible and boring whereas another my age in leopard tights and lots of make up could be wife of wealthy man,pots of money etc.
Probably none of you do this as you're too nice.

Pantglas2 Thu 11-Aug-22 17:40:04

I do judge - always behaviour, never appearances.

My dad always said ‘Handome is as handsome does, not how handsome looks’ - he’s not been wrong.

Blondiescot Thu 11-Aug-22 17:44:04

I wouldn't judge someone purely on their appearance, but I think you do tend to size someone up pretty quickly - call it instinct or whatever. Sometimes you can just get a feeling about a person within the first few minutes of meeting them.

nexus63 Thu 11-Aug-22 17:50:48

i don't usually judge people on what they wear, i think each to there own, i live my life in straight legged joggers and nice tops, if people don't like then that's fine, there was a craze of very big ladies/girls wearing the thin tight leggings, my late partner used to say it was like two kids fighting under a blanket, i do have a habit of deciding within the first few mins of talking to someone whether i like them and never change my mind.

ginny Thu 11-Aug-22 19:46:26

I think we all have that’first impression’ judgement. This is not a view to hold on to. Learn about the person before deciding. Certainly I wouldn’t judge on appearances or what car or house some one own on where the buy their clothes.

MissAdventure Thu 11-Aug-22 20:24:16

I wouldn't know what I was judging anyway.
A car is a car, is a car, to me.
Clothes are what you put on instead of being in the nuddy.

I neither know nor care about labels.

I just asked big grandson if he was wearing his work t shirt - nope - some ridiculously expensive brand.