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The elastic nature of time

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GagaJo Fri 19-Aug-22 10:15:55

I know it's because I'm getting older, but my sense of time is warped.

It feels like last week that my DGS started nursery. But it's been a year.

It feels like last year that I sat on the uprooted tree behind the family home and thrilled myself with how high up I was.

I think it's something to do with the death of my mum 6 months ago. I look at pictures of her when she did some modelling and I can't believe she's lived a whole life and is now gone.

I can avoid the slight distress of this sensation when I'm busy with the minutiae of daily life, but it creeps back in when I'm not busy.

Anyone else?

Calendargirl Fri 19-Aug-22 17:54:42

My mum, when 90 years old, used to say, “ But I still feel like I did 50/60 years ago”.

That’s the trouble, we feel the same, not perhaps physically, but in our minds.

It’s life.

Yammy Fri 19-Aug-22 17:59:03

nanna8

The older you are, the quicker it goes. No one can convince me otherwise,calendars, clocks or anything else !

I agree with you nanna8.
It doesn't seem like a year since my granddaughter was born and today she was sitting talking on facetime like a woman smiling at her younger siblings' antics.
I don't know why but I now remember things from the past very clearly and in great detail but if I am asked where something is I have to think twice. I can't multitask either
DH is not like this he can barely remember his happy childhood and just seems to live for the present I worry about the future and have many sleepless nights. at how quickly time is passing. Is it a woman thing?hmm

BridgetPark Fri 19-Aug-22 18:11:03

I have long felt that the circle of life is too fast and sometimes you think, what is it all for? I just don't want to leave my grandchildren, or my children, I want to see all their achievements and be there for them. I don't mind if I just have to sit in a chair and be an observer, at least I will still see them and they would see me. How can we reconcile the fact that we leave them, even though we really want to stay here, and not die? I can get so bogged down in this, it affects my moods, but I can't shake it off some days. Other days I have to tell myself to snap out of it, because there is no answer. I try to find joy in day to day things, but in the end, we are all just pictures in a frame.

Lexisgranny Fri 19-Aug-22 18:17:21

I find that increasingly we are using “pegs” from the school/university lives of children/grandchildren to “date” various events, marvelling that it is that long since……………. The problem is soon the last grandchild will have finished, we can but hope there will be engagements/Weddings, births to help our failing memories, that’s if we live long enough!

Lexisgranny Fri 19-Aug-22 18:25:31

BridgetPark. Many years ago I was having a discussion with our eldest grandson about longevity, and I said that I would be sad to miss seeing his children growing up. He immediately replied that it was not a problem because I would be in heaven and I could fly quite easily from town to town or even country to country to check what all the family were doing, and I wouldn’t miss a thing. It made me smile, and I hope it will do the same for you.

crazyH Fri 19-Aug-22 21:10:35

We celebrated my son’s 45th bday today. As we were leaving, he asked me “Mum, how many more bdays of mine will you celebrate with me?”. I replied “not many darling” and it brought a lump to my throat …….life is a bxxxxr?