My older sister is in a nursing home three and a half to four hours' drive away. Until lockdown, we went to see her once a month, sharing the drive. We are both over 70 so couldn't see her for months. She has multiple disabilities, including vascular dementia, since a very serious stroke nearly six years ago, so she can't use the phone or video calls though we did manage a Zoom on her 82nd birthday. Now the rules are one half hour visit once a week by one family member in full PPE. I have done it twice in the last two months and will go again later this month. My husband has to stay in the car and read a book.. We get up at 6am to do the journey twice in a day. It's gruelling day for half an hour, during which, although she knows me, I can't understand anything she says any more. Her voice has completely gone. She had definitely deteriorated sine March and I do hope it's not because of the lack of visits. We have done what we can and I write to her every week, but it's very upsetting.