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How long can one year olds remember Grandparents?

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Lavazza1st Mon 26-Oct-20 22:29:46

I have been thinking a lot about my GC and wondering how long it will take for him to forget about us? Or maybe he already has. Is there a window of time where it's crucial to have contact or be forgotten?

When I google stuff, I keep reading how estrangement is worse for parents than kids, but I don't know. My DS has not got any other family that he talks to. He's got various things troubling him, MH etc. He was hostile and aggressive and really should be the one apologising, but I doubt he ever will due to his perceptions.

I really would have loved to have a relationship with GC , but unless I am to apologise to DS (and dance to his tune) I really cannot see that happening. There isn't really anything I can think of to apologise for apart from putting down boundaries, because he was abusive. So I am going in circles. It's been three weeks now, which I know isn't much compared to some.

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Lavazza1st Tue 27-Oct-20 22:41:53

Yes, its been really getting me down today knowing we're approaching 4 weeks @Smileless

TBH we were so hurt by DS1 sneaking off and leaving home in secret that we never tried to get in contact (and now its way too late) It may never have worked, probably not at all as his wife hated us.

I don't even know how's the best way to try. He isn't answering messages, so I'm considering just ringing. He might not answer the phone, though... I don't want to go to his place after he was super hostile last time.

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