Food obsessed, always feeling guilty

I've never tried low sodium salt devongirl but it sounds like a good idea.

Having an unhealthy 32 BMI to a 27 BMI and eaten a fantastic array of food without guilt. What is more, they have lots of lovely recipes so you can have all sorts of dinners and puddings which you can eat without guilt. I've gone from feeling totally anxious about what I am putting in my mouth so that even the naughty things weren't particularly enjoyable with the amount of guilt involved to someone who can just relax about it.

Oh Gill I do sympathise. The first few pounds came off fairly quickly but now has slowed up and at least 1.5 stone to go.
We passed some lovely gardens on the way home today and DH said 'shall we go in for a . I said 'No' because they do such lovely cakes there and we'll be tempted.
Then he said 'I am missing chocolate' - he is not a chocolate person normally but I am.

Antonia one sentence of your post stood out for me - "I can't help regretting the days when I was younger and could eat anything".

The problem is that maybe those were the days when you were building up to your high blood pressure, pre-diabetes, and being a bit overweight.

It's hard for me to advise anyone as I am a skinny thing who has never had any weight problems or weight related illnesses. But please persevere with your "better" eating plan and I am sure you will see and feel the benefits.

I love bread and I know I eat too much. I have two slices of toast for breakfast, and a sandwich for lunch. Hubby keeps asking why I won't have porridge for breakfast.It's because I love toast and butter so much! I really want to lose weight but unless I join a slimming club (again), I can't seem to do it.

I hate all healthy foods.............I am a vegetarian and not keen on vegetables. Fruit is horrible. I am a carb junkie...........why is life so unfair? Why can't chocolate be health food and suager good for your teeth?????

Do you want to live longer or not? If so then get over it, eat properly and enjoy! If not then eat what you want and enjoy!

Dear Antonio, I so agree and feel the same. Am diet controlled type 2 with slightly high BP. Yesterday ate dreadfully.Went to allotment came home exhausted and ate 3 slices of shop bought cake and hotchocolate.
No self control at all.
Today am going to plan my healthy meals. I am ,I am..........
Anyone else have any advice?
Went to see a friend in the country who is slender and was wearing a chic summer dress. Known her for years . She has always made me feel like a cart horse . Sickening. Utterly.

Oh Antonio, moving back from France ! I know it's intrusive but may I ask why? Mind you there is something glorious about this unpredictable climate. I tell myself it is character building.
Hope all goes well. Where are you moving back to?

Sorry, Antonia,.

Hi loopiloo. We are moving from France after 17 years here, mainly because we now have 3 grandchildren in the UK. We see 2 of them quite regularly, about every 3 months, but our youngest DGD we only see once a year. Also, there is language. My DH doesn't speak French. Well, apart from the very basics, and if anything happens to me, he couldn't cope here on his own. He wouldn't be capable of selling the house, or even calling a plumber etc. We are also at the age where we are physically capable of moving back, but we know of couples who have wanted to move back but we're unable to because of health, and find themselves stuck here. There were lots of reasons for us to stay here, but the reasons for going back were more important. I take it that you are in France too loopiloo? We are moving to Harrogate.

Wildswan, when I was younger I wasn't in the least overweight. As far as I know I didn't have high blood pressure either. The extra pounds came at menopause and although I dieted and lost a lot of weight, sadly it has all come back on.

Still on nearly no carbs. In about 6 months I lost 3 1/2 stones and DH lost 2 1/2 but now we are stuck fast. Once the summer hols are over I shall have to up my exercise levels. I want to lose another 2 1/2 before DD's wedding next year. The trouble with low carb is the a weekend of normal food can put on 5lbs or more, which is SO disheartening

No , Antonia, we live in London, so we are close to our grandchildren so I fully understand your motives. Works both ways too as if we need help DS and DD are not too far away.
Wishing you all the best with the move. And these days the welfare state is disappearing so families need to help.

Jane D3, I so agree about the carbs. Which sources are you following? Any tips?

Basically Atkins of old! No bread, pasta, starchy veg, rice etc but green veg and salads. Recently converted to cauliflower rice with curry and courgetti spaghetti with bolognaise. Do eat some fruit but not too much and no fruit juice. . My downfall, like so many GNs is alcohol

loopyloo I too have a friend who makes me feel like a carthorse.
I have always said she could be dressed in a binliner and still look stylish!!!!
I am slightly over weight and a size 14/16 i need to loose about a stone i think, she is a tiny 6/8 so she looks good in everything.

I am diabetic and you need carbs...just not the 'empty' sort, which usually involve biscuits, cakes, croissants, puddings, white pasta. I used to be a diabetic nurse and used to say to my patients eat things that are as close to their natural state as possible. Think about it, it cuts out most of the 'rubbish'.

There's so much guilt today in the food department which I'm sure I never felt or thought about too much when I was young (slim, shapely - with a waist).
Now the Food Police have so much advice for us, some of which is contradictory that it can be confusing.
Moderation in all things - including moderation.

6-8 is a bit too thin unless she is about 4'10" travelsafar. You sound fine to me!! I am aiming for a size 14 again!

Even my too-skinny DD looks and feels better when she goes up to a size 10 from an 8.

I have low blood pressure and no diabetes. I have no guilt what food I put in my mouth, neither do I get anxious.
I am over weight but the weight is carried on my bum, My BMI is 30. Doctor told me carrying the weight there is better than anywhere else.
I like my size 16 figure, and feel better than when I was size 10.
Typing this in a coffee shop after having a latte and a large slice of cake. Heaven

The only time I use the scales now is to deduct my weight from me plus the cat!
Things swing backwards and forward in the health advice....eggs? Cheese? Butter or spread?.....so I go for what I like, and rely on the fear of indigestion to keep me within limits.
Seems to work,

Sometimes I think we need to decide what is more important to us. You can either prolong your life for a few years by restricting your diet or you can eat what you want and risk leaving this earth a little earlier. It is up to the individual.

Antonia I know just how you feel. My Mum was diabetic and ate lots of things she shouldn't have which led to her early demise. I see myself going the same way as I just nibble at the wrong things and think afterwards ' Oh I shouldn't have had that'. I hear myself using all the excuses she used to say, and I worry that I'm going to suffer as she did. My willpower is NIL! My children say 'Don't do what Grandma did' and I must try to stop for all our sakes.

The Paul McKenna diet is a good one. Eat absolutely anything you like, but only when you are hungry, and stop eating when you are not hungry. Interesting, but does work! Learning to listen to one's tummy is an interesting learning curve.
Also, if you are diabetic or pre-diabetic read the book, Breakfast is a Dangerous Meal. He cured himself, fascinating. Sorry, you can tell I read the Sunday papers!