After i posted the above , things got much worse for my daughter, she was rushed into hospital haemorhaging (sp?) because it was , as she feared, an ectopic pregnancy. I had an absolutely awful few days of worrying round the clock . I could hardly tell anyone about it because it was so upsetting . I was jumping whenever my mobile buzzed (whatever did we do before Whatsapp? - i recommend it to anyone if your signal is bad and you have Wifi ) -until eventually the news from her got gradually better . They had to pay for everything the hospital did for her ( we are so lucky with the Uk`s NHS even if it creaks at the seams ) and so they now have no savings , but my daughter survived HOORAY ! During the worst i was looking up miscarriages and ectopic pregnancy on the net, mostly UK sites and learned a lot . I remember my Mum being astonished at how much i knew about childbirth back in the 70s/80s because of the publication of books on the subject - there is even more information out there now , so it might be easy to get more worried than necessary , but i would prefer to know things. She sent pictures of them on the beach in the sunshine this morning , lovely to see when here we area freezing with yet more snow . And her husband is being very attentive and she is taking things gently -hshe had begun to get backache witting in bed all the time, plus she still had discomfort which is probably the gs they pumped into her abdomen when they did the keyhole surgery ( see : you learn something different everyday !) and the best thing to get rid of it is moving about . So she was sitting in the shade , but enjoying the warmth, dipping her toes very briefly in the sea ( the Caribbean ) just to say she has done it ! I am so glad her sense of humour has returned , that seems to me a good sign. I am still more or less tense with motherly anxiety , but i know that that`s because it takes me longer to get over things these days . So today i need to rejoice , and get out and do something distracting I think ! I can breathe again ! phew ! So sorry this has been such a long post , will be shorter next time !