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Feeling horrible after a 'near miss'

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Annlawsongarbutt Sun 19-Jun-22 17:50:01

Just had a lovely afternoon in a pub garden, listening to music, couple of drinks etc. Taking it in turns to look after little 3 year old grandson, he somehow slipped away from me and ran into the road. I caught him about a foot into the road, no harm done. Feel SO upset and shaken. Anyone else had similar?

honeyrose Mon 20-Jun-22 12:35:30

Yes it’s happened to me and I still get flashbacks. It’s certainly a steep learning curve. Things happen so fast and grandchildren are often faster than 67 year old grandmothers! Grandchildren are an absolute blessing, but a huge responsibility. My twin 4 year old granddaughters simply do not listen and will run off at the drop of a hat, so I have to be extremely careful. Thankfully all was well for you, but it’s a very scary situation.

Gwenisgreat1 Mon 20-Jun-22 12:40:40

My DGs is always running off, that's why we keep the doors locked and I keep him on a harness when out.. He has Down syndrome, and still manages to escape. He is 8 but is the size of a 4 year old. Basically he is a little monkey, but we love him.

grandtanteJE65 Mon 20-Jun-22 12:54:28

Every parent, aunt, grandmother, and school-teacher knows the hideous moment when you realise a child is missing!

And how hard you start shaking when you find that child unhurt.

It takes an age just to feel relief!

I feel quite sick when I think that some unfortunate people do not find the child unhurt.

Growing0ldDisgracefully Mon 20-Jun-22 12:56:00

I don't have grandchildren (yet) but could fill a book with incidents concerning my son, usually when he was within arm's reach so don't feel you were to blame though I know its a horrible feeling.
I think the one which sticks in my mind most is the one on a very hot summers day. I had very quickly gone out into the back garden to pick up our dog's 'parcels', not something to involve a curious toddler in, and I'd thought he was having a nap so I had an opportunity to do the 'harvest' without him getting amongst the job. My neighbour shouted over the fence to warn me my son was running up the road! The little so'n'so had managed to reach and open the front door and was running up the road dressed only in a nappy (it was a stiflingly hot day). When I caught up with him, he was crying, not because he was naughty or lost, but because the hot pavement was hurting his feet!

MeowWow Mon 20-Jun-22 13:14:37

My 2 year old DGD once ran off in the chemist. I’d let go of her hand to put something back on the shelf and my eyes were off her for a couple of seconds but it was enough for her to run. I still cringe when I think how she managed to run towards the door and I caught her just in time otherwise she would have run out into the street. How can those little legs run so fast?

grannybuy Mon 20-Jun-22 13:26:32

Had a few frights over the years with DC and DGC, and still feel thankful after every occasion they’ve been with me that all went safely.

ShazzaKanazza Mon 20-Jun-22 13:32:11

Gwen I think we need to get GS a wrist strap that we can attach to our wrist and his. It’s awful to say that but we feel nervous walking along the road with him. We need to lock our front door and take out the key when he’s at ours. We live on a busy road.

pinkjj27 Mon 20-Jun-22 13:37:42

No not as bad as that, but I have had my moments and a few near misses, but we are grans /nans nannas not super heroes it happens to everyone let your self off the hook.

GraceQuirrel Mon 20-Jun-22 13:40:15

Was in Boots once many moons ago with my very young son and a lady came up to me to tell me he’d just come back into the shop after going outside across the car park!!! I never even noticed, mum of the year!! grin

NanaPower Mon 20-Jun-22 13:49:12

Don't beat yourself up about it. It was a pure accident, and you did catch him. My DGS lives with me, and a few years ago went on holiday to Morecambe. We were crossing the road on the sea front when I blacked out, don't remember a thing, except his poor little head hitting the floor. I must have taken him down with me, as I was holding his hand. he was only 4. took him to hospital afterwards, as he had a bruised, and bloody head and skinned the bridge of his nose. I still have nightmares off this, and have never been out alone with him, except school runs which is a 5 minute walk. Like everyone says accidents do happen, but our mind over think s lot

SueDonim Mon 20-Jun-22 13:58:49

Oh, the speed with which things can happen! Even with the best will in the world, such events do happen. My ‘party piece’ was the time a small boy knocked on my front door and asked me if that was my 18mth old baby crawling up the white line in the middle of the road outside our house. It was! ???

I dashed outside to grab him, mystified as to how he had got outside. I asked his older brother if he’d seen anything and he said ‘Oh yes! He asked to go out so I opened the front door for him.’ ???‍???

Happysexagenarian Mon 20-Jun-22 14:13:36

Yes it happened with one of our GC a few years back. She was about 2 1/2 and slipped out around side of the house (no gates) when I went to the loo. I heard DH calling her from the front garden where he was weeding. I ran out and saw him standing calmly in the middle of the busy road stopping the traffic. I took her hand and led her back to the house just as if we were going for a walk. No point in telling her off she was just being curious and too young to understand. Her mum said she often wandered off. It's scary but probably inevitable at some point, you can't watch them constantly.

Happysexagenarian Mon 20-Jun-22 14:25:55

SueDomin: I asked his older brother if he’d seen anything and he said ‘Oh yes! He asked to go out so I opened the front door for him.’

Now that made me laugh. Our eldest son did almost the same thing with his youngest brother. Fortunately baby brother could not open the front gate so lay down on the path and had a tantrum which alerted me to his whereabouts. When big brother explained how he got there he said indignantly 'But we open the door when the dog wants to go out.' He was right. hmm

Sparklefizz Mon 20-Jun-22 14:31:21

I lost my daughter on the top floor of M&S when she was 3. I had her baby brother in the carrycot-on-wheels (remember those?) and she was on reins which I was holding while she was walking beside me, but she somehow slipped the reins and hid in a rack of clothes. As I reached her, pushing the carrycot through crowds of shoppers, she ran off somewhere else, thinking it was a game.

I was terrified she would go down the escalator and out onto the street. I found a supervisor who put a message out on the tannoy, and while I was frantically looking, my daughter suddenly ran into me and I grabbed her and burst into tears.

It was a truly terrifying experience. I imagined someone evil taking her hand and ......

My daughter is 48 now and I still haven't got over it!!!

suelld Mon 20-Jun-22 15:16:31

Oh this sort of thing has happened to all of us - but we are the lucky ones as it was a ‘near miss’ so be thankful…when my eldest son was about 18 months old I went early to my local market too, was talking to a stall holder and looking back at the pushchair he was strapped into every few mins to check on him - after what couldn’t have been more than a couple of minutes Ilooked again and he was gone!! My heart sank, etc, etc, I cried out and looked up and down the rows - and as I was known there as a regular several of the smallholders started a hunt too. After about half an hour he was still no-where to be found and I thought he must have been taken, so called the Police - another half hour passed whilst I desperately gave all the details to the police etc, and was in despair when suddenly one of the smallholders who had also been searching came along with little Jon toddling happily by his side - the market adjourned a large shopping precinct where a small Tescos was sited on the edge - Jon had extracted himself from the straps and toddled like the wind to Tescos and as found by the sweet pic and mix section with a mouthful!!! Even at 18 months he had remembered where it was!!!! I have NEVER EVER forgortten that awful experience! He’s now a very careful 43 year old!

luluaugust Mon 20-Jun-22 17:00:26

DGS was on the beach with DH and I when a large kite fell out of the sky and thumped down beside him, even though he is now grown up I don't think I could go onto a beach with him.

mulberry7 Mon 20-Jun-22 17:24:36

Those reins were great. Do they have them nowadays?

MayBee70 Mon 20-Jun-22 17:35:17

When my son was in his teens we were waiting to cross a road in what was a one way system. I grabbed him just as he was about to step out in front of a car. I still get flashbacks to it and it was nearly thirty years ago. When he was little I left him sleeping in the car one day and he got out of the car and let himself into the house. In those days, having a Yale lock on the front door I used to leave the key in the door for fear of locking myself out and everyone in our street had the same key for our back door ( I once went into town and realised I’d left something cooking: phoned my neighbour up and asked him to go round and take it out of the oven. As we drove up our street my ex said to me ‘ why did Roger just wink out you’….how times have changed in just 45 years)

Dearknees1 Mon 20-Jun-22 17:44:02

My 4 year old granddaughter got out of the car and ran straight across the road before I could stop her. Fortunately there were no cars around. When I asked her why she had done it she said because she had been told to stay on the pavement. Normally we park on the same side as her house but on this occasion we’d had to park on the opposite side. She’d assumed pavement meant outside her house so I had to explain it meant wherever the car was. You can’t legislate for every occurrence or misunderstanding but I was very shaken and she was very upset.

HiPpyChick57 Mon 20-Jun-22 17:45:53

Not traffic related. Years ago my sister had been rushed into hospital with an ectopic pregnancy leaving me to look after my 3 small dns. Knowing they hadn’t yet had dinner I started to cook some chips. I’d put the chip pan on to heat up and went back to peel more potatoes. I happened to glance up and saw the youngest of my dns reaching up to the handle of the chip pan I shouted her name and she immediately pulled her hand away. I was beside myself in shock as to what could have happened had I not seen her in time. That was 35 years ago and to this day I always use the back rings to cook even though I’ve no small children at home.

crazyH Mon 20-Jun-22 17:49:24

A few near misses, but the one that still gives me nightmares is when my little granddaughter started choking on a grape ( I had cut them all into quarters, but missed one) . I did the Heimlich manoeuvre- I honestly don’t know how I did it -she was in her high chair at the time. It dislodged. Thank Heaven !

H1954 Tue 21-Jun-22 12:24:07

What a nasty and upsetting experience for you! But I'm puzzled as to why a pub garden wasn't fenced in some way with it being so close to a road. Maybe avoid that particular pub in the future.

sweetcakes Thu 23-Jun-22 13:30:24

I have 5 grandchildren and I can honestly say No! BUT my son was a different matter lost him in a shopping centre and their was 5 adults looking after 2 children! Each thought the other had him but thank god it was all good in the end. Don't beat yourself up about it like me you've learnt a lesson you won't repeat it. ?

Winter13 Sat 13-Aug-22 21:32:50

Of course a THREE year old took an open opportunity to go on an adventure. His grandmother was tipsy while she was supposed to be watching him. Do his parents know about this? Be more responsible or they may limit your contact.

Mizuna Sat 13-Aug-22 21:57:55

I was walking along a country road and discovered a toddler (18 months old, it turned out) standing right in the middle of the road. Took his hand and walked him up the nearest driveway and found his grandparents busy gardening. They hadn't noticed he'd gone. They were mortified, as you can imagine. I'll never forget how the little chap was standing there so quietly, like a little statue.