Oh dear, I am going to have a(nother) moan. Does anybody else feel they come somewhere below last in their own list of priorities?
One reason I retired (well 2 actually) was to be able to spend time with new grandson when he arrived - and now there are 2, and because DH's health was not good and I found it hard juggling the job and his medical apointments etc.
I had not thought through the other good reason- after years of being wife and mother FIRST perhaps I could do something for ME. I know DH can't help his considerable and various medical issues but I devote so many days to accompanying him usually to London to go to his hospital, frequently missing my one treat of the week - Art History class on a Monday. I also drive him to and from Mass, to the doctor/dentist/library etc. I know, it's because he can't but it always seems to come first. DD is feeling the strain of a 2 year-old and a very active baby - so Mum goes up to her for an afternoon/evening so that she can get out for an hour and to give a hand with bathtime as SIL won't be back till late. In the meantime DH is huffing because he thinks I didn't tell him when I was leaving - in fact I rang but he had not switched his hearing aid on so didn't hear the phone. I put all his stuff as well as mine on the calendar but he rarely looks at it and is indignant when I say that such and such an appointment needs changing because e.g. we are away on holiday.Duh! I have 2 other DD's - not needing any help at the moment, but I could almost wish myelf back at work so that I get a bit of time for myself! Or to misquote a saying more usually about money than time "What's mine is his/theirs, what's his/theirs, is his/their own"Does anybody else feel they are spread too thin? Or am I being selfish (don't answer that one unless it's a firm "No!")
