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Friends that depress you!

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Greatnan Thu 04-Oct-12 11:16:25

I have a friend whom I like very much - she has no gc and is not a member of Gransnet, so I can safely tell you about her. She is very pessimistic and her messages are always full of the awful things that are happening in her life. Every time I suggest something she could do to improve matters, she tells me some reason why it won't work.
I told her my good news about my grandson getting into the Royal Navy yesterday, and her only comment was 'You must be worried, it sounds a very dangerous job'. Actually, I am not worried because I know the RN will train him very well, and he will be doing something he loves and making lots of friends.
I manage to keep very cheerful most days, in spite of my own family problems, and I could do without her continually telling me how rotten life is!
I think some of you might have partners like this - Eeyores - so have you any advice as to the best way to deal with her? She wants to come on a short holiday with me but I am afraid it would not be joyous, like my jaunts with Juragran!

Ceesnan Tue 09-Oct-12 19:05:48

Apologies to Daman, iPad playing up again.

Daman Wed 10-Oct-12 16:41:45

Greatnan I can feel goodwill to your daughter because she is alive and kicking. The main positive thing as I see it is that she is not dead.

Those who love her and care for her can, with the authorities, be positive, and work with friendliness, to bring her to recovery and happiness.

All you friends will bring love to you both as you progress.

Greatnan Wed 10-Oct-12 16:48:42

Daman, you don't have a clue about my daughter's circumstances and I don't wish to discuss her any further. Thank you.

angiebaby Wed 10-Oct-12 21:16:31

graces mum thought the grandparents nswering machine was great im sending that to my kids lol,,,,brilliant

joyfuljenn Wed 10-Oct-12 23:20:55

Reading the opinion you have of yourself, greatnan, as a Pollyanna, I realised I'm exactly the same! And, ?sadly, I've never read/seen Pollyanna, so unsure whether or not this is a good thing!