Gillybob & Birchermuesli, I sympathise very much. Twice widowed, I have spent weeks, months and years alone, with only work colleagues to speak to. Re-married to someone who has lots of health issues and both of us now retired - I have little social life either. We (hubby and I) go out to lunch twice weekly - to the same place - but it does have friendly staff and lovely food. My hubby can't walk far, and we live in a village with no shops, pubs or bus service (not even a Church). Since I am partially sighted, I can't go anywhere on my own and would need a taxi to the nearest town and back. Hubby has a back injury which causes pain all the time and even more for him to drive, and he struggles to get up from or down to a seated position. He can't climb steps, so even visiting people is difficult, unless they happen to live in a bungalow and have reasonably high furniture. I am obliged to watch TV/read/ use the computer most of my free time (when not cooking or doing housework). I do resent it sometimes, as I used to love going swimming or to the theatre, or just for days out on buses or trains. We no longer go on holiday as the travelling is difficult and the accommodation is never suitable. We have two cats for company (I was unable to have children) and I work in the garden sometimes. My friends are long distance ones from work days in the past and we keep in touch by phone/text/ and cards at Christmas. However, I love my hubby dearly and wouldn't swap him for the world. I would recommend taking up hobbies for yourselves - something you enjoy doing, whether at home or elsewhere. It's truly awful to be sad and dreading days - for whatever reason. I hope you both find some answers that will help.