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(62 Posts)
Shanavine Wed 20-May-20 23:12:43

Is 4 new sexual partners in 8 months too much or am I prude

timetogo2016 Sun 31-May-20 10:40:04

You are no prude Shanavine.
I feel uncomfortable when i hear how many sexual partners some people have had,but it`s none of my business and each to there own,
And yes i AM a prude.

Lucca Fri 29-May-20 06:13:52

Oh I thought the frog kissing thing was much more interesting personally. I don’t know why a grown man/woman needs to ask what grans think about partners sex life. If they think it’s too many than pack it in, if not then carry on

Sparkling Fri 29-May-20 05:53:23

I wonder how many sexual partners the previous 4 sexual partners had been with.. I am very surprised most people could think doing that is acceptable, I would get checked out.

Sparkling Fri 29-May-20 05:46:13

Well I'm a prude then!

NotSpaghetti Sat 23-May-20 09:28:19

Grandad1943 I don’t think this is relevant to the question asked. Why does it matter whether the poster is a man or a woman?

The comments come over as rather sleazy to me I’m afraid and lacking in understanding.
I expect you think I’m a killjoy but offering to kiss strangers (if attractive, young and female) and assuming this it is humorous to imply you were “helping” is like 1970s comedy and sadly rather demeaning.

sodapop is right.

Grandad1943 Fri 22-May-20 19:05:50

trisher,
???

trisher Fri 22-May-20 18:27:51

I'm sorry I'm going to have to report this thread there is an awful lot of amphibianism going on, and there have been complaints about some people, who are not genuine frogs, just pretending and using the frog changing room.

sodapop Thu 21-May-20 16:15:52

I don't know that it really matters does it Grandad ?

Grandad1943 Thu 21-May-20 15:24:28

Callistemon Quote [You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find Your Royal Highness ] End Quote.

If the OP is a young gorgeous twenty year old female, I do not mind putting myself forward as a frog to be kissed. After all, I am as good as any royal.

The above would purely be in the interest of helping the OP assess her personal preferences of course. ??

Grandad1943 Thu 21-May-20 15:14:27

Callistemon.
???

Callistemon Thu 21-May-20 14:52:07

Oh, sorry, my post was rather sexist.

You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find Your Royal Highness

annsixty Thu 21-May-20 14:38:02

I thought that too Grandad after the second post.

Grandad1943 Thu 21-May-20 14:28:29

I am still trying to figure out if the opening poster is male or female, or the forum member is someone who "bats for both sides." ???

Callistemon Thu 21-May-20 13:19:42

You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince
smile

Hithere Thu 21-May-20 13:16:07

Her past is her past.

If you are not able to get over it, you should break up with her so she can meet somebody who accepts her for who she is

GrauntyHelen Thu 21-May-20 13:12:37

get over it Shanavine If Iwas your girlfriend I'd regret having told you Look at it like this she tried 3others but you had something she liked and you are a year on Chances are you are a prude btw

MissAdventure Thu 21-May-20 13:11:52

Oops!
Girlfriend, not fiancée.

MissAdventure Thu 21-May-20 13:10:18

I'm assuming you've had a less active sex life before you met your fiancée, Shanavine?

Shanavine Thu 21-May-20 13:07:27

God no I totally trust her

3nanny6 Thu 21-May-20 13:06:40

Vampirequeen : You wrote nothing wrong in having a healthy sex life or maybe they want variety or sex without commitment.
I answered the post and gave my own opinion and some of that being from my time when working in a sexual health clinic and my reason to ask about practicing safe sex. I saw a lot of what gets passed around and caught when having multiple partners.
To original poster Shanavine just hope your girlfriend was truthful to you at start of relationship and then you could have both had a sexual health check-up to make sure you were both clear of anything. You might be number 4 but you have been together a year so your partner obviously does want commitment enjoy it you are in relationship don't look to the past.

Hithere Thu 21-May-20 13:04:17

If after a year together you dont trust her, break up.

FarNorth Thu 21-May-20 13:01:04

Get over it, or leave.
Your girlfriend doesn't deserve someone who is still obsessing about this.

Lucca Thu 21-May-20 12:47:53

Well if you two met in the first week in January Then it might be questionable.......

TrendyNannie6 Thu 21-May-20 12:43:40

It was in the past Shanavine, look forward and not backwards,

sodapop Thu 21-May-20 12:38:28

Sounds like you are the one she wants Shanavine after a year together you should be putting such jealousies aside. If you can't then maybe this relationship is not for you.